4 month sleep regression FFS!

[EmmaJR1]

I'm dying! I was totally smug my child was sleeping through the night and now he's up twice for feeds and awake at 530-6!

Anyone got any idea how long it will be before this settles down again? Someone give me some hope please....

No ideas here, but not sure how much sympathy you'll get as many of the posters here have much more severe issues than 2x a night!!! You're baby sounds like an angel to me. I slept 2 hours last night... Many babies especially BF still need to eat that often at night. 4 months is still tiny. I'd say if you're baby is self settling, baby will hopefully be able to come out the other side quickly. Try to catch up during day time naps.

Our sleep regression lasted about 2-3 weeks but felt like an eternity! I drove myself insane looking into ways to change it and making her self-settle etc. Wish I didn't bother. she just stopped one day without me changing things. Just keep doing what your doing I say.

Just want to apologize for my first comment. Probably not helpful! I'm really tired and off to make another coffee. Hang in there!

No worries @gigi556 - I know I'm VERY lucky with my DS. I'm just in a bit of shock going from a full night to lots of broken nights. Sleep deprivation is awful! I was naively hoping someone might say "ah this is how you fix that" but I've done the (depressing) reading and know it's one of those things. I guess I just wanted s handhold. I hope you get some sleep today. 🌺

@BoredOnMatLeave love the user name! Me too!

I'm doing just that, reading, googling, pop quizzing friends! It's all quite depressing! I hope this only lasts 2 weeks but I know I'm kidding myself - I've been too lucky up til now... 😂

I think we're finally coming out the other side after 2.5 weeks total hell.

@peanutbutter310 ohhh that gives me hope! Thanks. And congratulations 🎉

Sleep regression hit here a couple of weeks ago... waking and feeding back to sleep every 2 hours. It's dc3 and I don't have the answer. If she can't self settle, how can I make sure we come out the other side?!

At exactly how many weeks has this happened to you all?

I'm still waiting for it to hit here 😬

@ilovetosleep This is the problem - how to you get them to self settle without CIO - which I refuse to do (at the moment) ... I just had to rock him to sleep and lay him down... What happened with your other 2 - did they just grow out of it one day or are you still settling 3 of them? (My god! I'm terrified!)

@INeedNewShoes my son is 19.5 weeks and it started Tuesday (exactly 19 weeks) 😞

We got tough around 18 months - not cio but I stopped night feeds and DH took over nights, they sort of understood 'mummy and milk are sleeping', and after a week of crying for me in daddy's arms they slept through. Have been ace sleepers ever since. But I don't want to wait that long this time!

@ilovetosleep 18 months? 😫😱 I may have just died a little inside 😂
Good luck with DC3!

Our DD is 16 weeks and possibility started with sleep regression, or it could be because she has had a cold and is still getting over it - not sure.

Anyway, like you she usually sleeps through the night and has done since 6 weeks old. She usually goes to sleep anytime between 7.30-9.30pm and is usually out for the night and wakes around 7.30-8.30am.

However for the last week or so she has been waking around twice at night, usually around 1/2am and then again 4/5am. It's odd because she was going through the night without feeds and has gone back to wanting them.

I know others will say that they have it worse and I do appreciate that I am lucky, but when you go from having a baby that goes through the night to one that wakes a couple of times, it does come as a bit of shock to the system!

Yup, 2-3 weeks for us. If he can already self settle, I think he'll sort himself out. If he can't, I'd recommend working on that.

Mine could self settle, so suddenly started waking up, but would just shout for a few seconds before going back to sleep, so we didn't actually have to do anything. My only bit of advice would be to keep any night feeds small if possible so he hopefully won't come to depend on them, and remains in the habit of having the calories he needs during the day.

I speak from the minimal experience of having one easy baby, so I'm no authority!

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it lasted four months for DS2 and I had to do sleep training to sort out his sleep pattern in the end. It worked, though!

My baby is 19 weeks today. Still sleeping well at this point. Does anyone ever escape the 4 month sleep regression!?

@Saz467 shock to the system is the phrase I was looking for! It's midnight and 4am for me!

@SeraphinaDombegh I'll be a shadow of the women I am after 4 months I've been spoilt up to now!

@INeedNewShoes I hope it bypasses you! Fingers crossed.

What are you doing in the night wake ups, are you feeding to sleep?

I don't think we've had a regression, DD is 5 months. Sometimes she has slept through but other times she wakes for feeds, no fixed pattern. I just assume that she is hungry so e nights and less so on others. We do have early wake ups but she is asleep in bed by 6.30 in the evening so I'm not really surprised or bothered. I just go with being grateful for good nights but expecting bad ones!

I have exactly the same OP- started just after 4 months, waking up at least twice and up to four times a night. He's now 5 months and it's still going. He was also an excellent sleeper before. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but you might have the dreaded waking every two hours situation at some point...

I was really stressed about it but I've calmed down now. I've adjusted my expectations and realised this is normal for a baby of this age. We have also started teaching him to self settle at bedtime as I was feeding to sleep (DH is actually doing it, he's much better than me!) He's not doing CIO but a sort of pick up put down method - you can find by googling. Basically if they cry you pick them up but you put down once they're calm again and before they go to sleep. DH reckons each time he puts DS down within a session he is calmer and he needs holding for less time. We've only been doing it for four nights but last night it only took 15 minutes for DS to go to sleep. I'm hoping it will help with night wakings too, being able to self settle.

Oh... I have been. I thought he was hungry he had a 6oz bottle each time he woke last night...