10 month old inconsolable in the night

[Aliveinwanderland]

DS has always been a poor sleeper. He always self settles to sleep using a dummy and comforter however wakes frequently.

He has started waking, having a quick breastfeed and then refusing to go back to bed. He screams hysterically, sits or stands up and won't be comforted at all. I've tried sitting with him, sleeping in his room, the cot in my room, the only think that stops the hysterics is him coming in to my bed where he rolls around tries to play and grabs at my face and hair.

We did leave him to cry it out a few weeks ago and it did improve but we've taken ten steps back the last few days and it's awful hearing him be so upset.

When you say you left him to cry it out do you mean with checks or on his own? I wouldn't advise that it will be very hard on baby, and you. There are MANY other things you can do.

It's really normal at 10 months to have a middle of the night party, it is developmental, just to assure you there's nothing wrong. www.google.co.uk/amp/s/sarahockwell-smith.com/2015/11/18/what-the-heck-goes-wrong-sleep-wise-at-8-10-months/amp/

However I do appreciate it must be exhausting - I would say getting the most rest possible while he is in this phase is the best plan of action. Can you cosleep or isnit not your thing? Can you go to bed a couple of hours earlier every night during the bad back just to get some extra sleep?

Sorry it's rough

Yes we did regular checks but found they made it worse as it was like we were teasing him popping in then leaving again.

Last night I sat there him from 4-5am patting his chest and he laid quietly in the cot but couldn't go back to sleep. In the end I put him in with us at 5am and he laid quietly then went to sleep till 8am.

We stopped cosleeping as he wouldn't start the night in his cot and it isn't practical for one of us to go to bed with him at 7pm.

Yeah understandable - I would definitely recommend doing whatever it takes to this short period such as going to bed a bit earlier etc so you get more rest x

My 10 month old has been going through something similar, although the trying to stand up in his sleep has stopped (fingers crossed!) I think their brains are just so active that they find it hard to switch off at night.

My DS was inconsolable last night and I think it was his teeth. Could your DS be teething?

We've also brought his cot back into our room, back up against our bed with the side off just like when he was little. Means he is close enough for me to give him that reassurance without having to have him in our bed with me teetering on the edge! Also like crazycatlady said, I've been going to bed early some nights just to catch up on sleep or MN with a cuppa but at least resting

We stopped cosleeping as he wouldn't start the night in his cot and it isn't practical for one of us to go to bed with him at 7pm

Dealing with this, rather than your sleep issue, it is reasonable to be teaching baby to get off the bed safely at 10 months.

Teach him to reverse crawl to the edge of the bed, then drop his legs off the side and hold on with hands. Dangle and drop.

Some pool noodles under the bottom sheet at the bed edges make a safe but hard enough edge to the bed that would wake up baby from an accidental roll whilst asleep. Then teach to safely get off the bed if necessary and I would say that baby could let baby to go to sleep in your bed at the start of the night, without one of you needing to go to bed yourself. If you wanted to do that.

Fate- DS is very late to crawling and rolling and so doesn't yet have the ability to learn to control the movements to get off the bed safely. A good idea for the future though.