Struggling with sleep

[Flatpeaches]

Hi I've got a 17week old baby girl. Up until she was 12 weeks old she seemed to be doing great on the sleep front at night as in she would feed from 1900 till around 2045-2100 but then sleep till 0400 bf then slept. On a few occasions she slept until 0600 (wonderful!!) However since 13weeks she has been waking at from 0100 bf sometimes manage to get her back into her cot but up again at 0300 then 0500 then again at 0600 with me resorting to bf to settle her. I'm getting no down time at all as during the day she refusing to nap other than short periods on me. I'm exhausted and feel like I'm going stir crazy I'm trying to bed share but she fidgets my DH fidgets and I end up getting wound up to the point tonight that I want to scream because it's windy 😭 Any suggestions?? Or reassurances? Thanks.

When you say resorting to breastfeeding her - is there a reason you're choosing not to breastfeed her every time she wakes? They go through huge growth spurts and need the extra calories so nightfeeding is very normal at this age. Sleep changes so much in the first year I wouldn't expect one month to be the same as the others. My 7 month old wakes once, sometimes twice now, but woke up every 45 minutes for a couple of weeks around the same age as yours. I just kept boobin'! It does end, cosleeping gets you the most rest. Have a look at the 4 month sleep regression x

Thank you for answering. I've tried on a few occasions not to go down the boob route because she seems to muck around on there but to be honest the boob usually does the job!! I think I'm struggling because I seem to be going through a phase of not being able to drop off I think I might have to kick the hubby out to the spare bed! She's actually my third but I had severe PND with my last child 4yrs ago and remember very little of this period she also had severe CMPA and was on neocate so a very different baby. Think I'm in the middle of the sleep deprivation fog trying to catch a glimpse of the light at the end of the tunnel.

I totally understand how you're feeling as you say feeding does the job and will settle her much quicker! Can you cosleep for now with hubby in the spare room just to get through the worst? Stay strong x

Flatpeaches how about giving baby a dummy for some off-boob sleep?

Massive jump in calorific need at this age. If you feed, feed, feed and feed some more in the daytime, baby is likely to need less milk at night so be more receptive to settling with a dummy.

Hi fate I've lost the dummy's having given them a go few times a day for a few weeks and baby spitting them out or getting cross when I try and keep it in place but might pick some more up. However I'm in the middle of another feed in an attempt to tank her up! Thanks for the suggestions x