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11 year old scared of dark

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GoosePimple100 · 29/08/2017 21:47

DS was always great sleeper and been perfectly content to go to sleep in the dark. Then a year ago aged 10 he sees a horrible online game at a friends house - 5 Nights at Freddy's - and his sleep's been unsettled since. Weve tried leaving door open, reading settling bedtime stories, nighlight, low level lamp but problem rumbling on. With the light, he insists on it being so bright (or turning on main light) that he does go to sleep but has poor quality sleep so gets very tired & irritable. So light hasnt been a solution, it leaves him shattered. He can talk quite rationally about it during the day - that he knows hes safe in the house & he doesnt really think anything bad will happen - but each bedtime its same story. The only way he'll go to sleep 'normally' is if someone else sleeps in the room - weve resisted this because didnt want it turning into a habit. Weve tried the doc who said its fairly common but huge wait to see a psych. He loves his bedroom so its not the room itself he doesnt like. Anyone come out the other side?

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fruitpastille · 29/08/2017 23:05

I agree fairy lights are good - we have star ones from IKEA I think.

Also we had some success with playing classical music as a distraction. Audio books just keep him awake listening. You can get meditation CDs as well. Also I try giving distracting ideas to think about e.g. alphabet game - A for, B for - do animals/countries whatever.

My ds has so many cuddlies that there is hardly room for him Grin

GoosePimple100 · 29/08/2017 23:45

Thx all for the ideas. Will keep plugging away!

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GoosePimple100 · 29/08/2017 23:53

I have ordeted Dread your Bed tonight - top tip. Sounds very good.

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GoosePimple100 · 29/08/2017 23:54

Ha reckon Jeremy Kyle would give me nightmares lol - but whatever works eh :-)

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GoosePimple100 · 29/08/2017 23:57

Fruitpastille good luck with the appointment. Let us know how you go. Referral so slow here GP basically said dont even bother going on the list

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fruitpastille · 30/08/2017 21:17

How unfair about referral - I just had ten minutes phone appointment with my GP (regular one who knows me a bit) and she did referral which took about a month? It's with psychological services for my area. There was an assessment session today and ds did well explaining things. We now have 8 sessions of CBT coming up - can't do any harm so worth a try!

GoosePimple100 · 30/08/2017 23:44

Fruitpastille that sounds pretty decent timeframe. Hope your DS (& you) get something out of it. Like you say no harm trying anything.

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