Sleep training 13MO - Asap!

[threeonefour]

Hi everyone!
Things changed quickly in my personal lofe, so now there is a chance I will be going back to work in 3 weeks time. The schedule is one week morning shifts, one week evening shifts. The evening shifts is what I am worried about. I will be home around 23:30
Our son has been sleeping with us from birth 99% of the time. He is still BF but only at night. If he wakes up at night and I am not there he goes absolutely berserk. Until recently he was fine with being put to sleep by my husband , but couple lf weeks ago he just started crying and didnt sleep until i came home. So my main worries are:

• how to make him get used to the fact that he will be put to sleep by his dad/nanny/grandparents
• how to teach him to fall asleep without boob and preferably without rocking him in arms
• should I try to teach him to sleep in his cot now as well, or will it be too much stress with everything?

I also want to finish breastfeeding, but wasn't sure whether it is easier to leave it until he is used to me working so its not too stressful

I am desperate for help!

Thank you!

I am by no means an expert but I've been looking at resources on sleep lately and I recommend this website/blog: childsleepscience.wordpress.com and the book "no cry sleep solution".

From what I've read it's easier to go from feeding to sleep to rocking to sleep, and then from rocking to sleep to putting down awake for baby to go to sleep by himself. Both the resources I mentioned have advice on how to do it.

I would think going from sleeping with parents and breastfeeding on tap to being put in own cot and mummy not being there will be too much for the little one all at once. If you're keen to do this asap the only way might be for daddy to put him to sleep for a week - perhaps you could feed until almost asleep, then hand to daddy and he does the rest. Couple of days later feed to drowsy and hand to dad. Then feed to almost drowsy and hand to dad. Until you've just given him a feed and handed to dad when wide awake. Then I would feed before bedtime routine and then go out when dad is getting him to sleep. Good luck! X

Thank you, will check that website

Crazycatlady5,
Forgot to mention that the reason this is so complicated is because my husband comes home very late , most of the time when our son is asleep already:(

Oh no!! That is so complicated! So will it be a grandparent getting baby to bed? Sorry I don't know what else to suggest

Yeah, such a terrible situation :( it will be husband some days, grandparents another. Sometimes nanny (who he really loves at least)

You might be interested in trying this?
childsleepscience.wordpress.com/2014/04/23/call-in-the-cavalry-the-grandma-sleep-intervention/

(Could be nanny that does it instead of grandma)

Thank you! Guess that's our only option