Help! Anyone successfully stopped feeding to sleep?

[BeccaSays]

Hi all, my lb is 6 months old and won't go to sleep unless I feed him to sleep for naps and bedtime. He really cries if he doesn't get it, so I give in and boob him. The only other time he will fall asleep is in the pushchair or car. I don't know what to do to break this habit? He used to be good at bedtime, having a bottle and allowing to be put down drowsy, then we hit the 4 month or so mark and he started bottle refusing. I've just introduced a morning bottle and he has started sometimes taking a small amount before bedtime, but will only accept it downstairs, not upstairs as part of bedtime routine. I want to start switching in more formula bottles so by the time I go back to work in January he's not dependent on me, but he won't take a dummy either. Help! Has anyone got any advice how to stop feeding to sleep and encourage self settling? Thank you.

I was a bit brutal, I did a feed in bedtime routine, then sit up burp, story and then put down. Every 10 mins I'd pop in with a calm down it's bed time. Had to go in 3 times the first night, once the second and by the third he could self settle.

If you'd like to do this gently look up the Pantley pull off or drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html (but tbh it's not recommended until one year). In January I assume he'll nearly be a year old? Just wondering if it might work to give it a bit longer? He's still so little

Brutal here too, we do a feed and wait till a yawn or two, red eyes rubbing them - just obvious tired signs. Pop into sleeping bag into bed and hang round till asleep. Most times theres a bit of yelling/fussing/chatting then drifting off to sleep. Sometimes it's almost instant.

Any crying and we pick up and settle try another feed if needed and start again. Usually alseep in 5 mins max and of not by 20mins it ain't happening and we get up. I always stay in the room until asleep.

My child was a bottle refuser and a dummy refuser, albeit younger when refusing. I found that when one was accepted, the other was soon afterwards. So it might be that now baby is accepting the bottle sometimes, she will also accept a dummy sometimes too. If you keep consistently trying, the 'sometimes' may well become more frequent.

Dummies are fantastic for gentle independent sleep, so definitely worth some concerted and consistent effort.

I was brutal too. But lots of reassurance and then checking. Now at 13 months I just lay her down awake and walk out. Not a peep. Worth it! Before it was literally taking hours to put her down

A dummy got DD out of the being fed to sleep habit. We're still working on getting rid of the dummy (she's 2).

Thanks ladies. I did try to put him down for a nap today without feeding and it didn't go well. After three attempts of putting him down and a lot of tears ( I stayed with him) I caved. Perhaps I will try the dummy again although he always refuses and spits it out. I'll try it every day for a week and see if he accepts it! I appreciate this might cause the knock on problem of getting rid of a dummy but at least it might help him self soothe.