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Putting to bed upstairs

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Sparrowlegs248 · 24/08/2017 19:10

I'll start by saying I overthrow everything and get a bit anxious about 'getting it right'.

Also Dc1 was quite difficult with sleep. Not anymore though he's 2 and goes to bed very nicely at about 8pm and deeps though til 6.30 ish though this is actually drifting later!

This is about Ds2 though, 6 months old, better at sleeping. So far his dad gives him a bottle downstairs, he falls asleep either on the bottle and then put in his sleepyhead, or put in sleepyhead, given dummy, nods off. He's been staying in the living room, with lamps on (so dim ish) TV on, us talking. He tends to wake when I take him upstairs, I feed him and put him in the sleepyhead in the cot next to my bed.

He rolled out of the sleepyhead last night onto the floor (it was on the floor) and again onto the bed next to me in the night. Around this age Ds1 was rolling onto his front to sleep.

So, Ds1 is at mil tonight so I'm putting Ds2 to bed in his cot, without the sleepyhead.
It's very quiet up here though and I wonder if it may be too many changes in one go? Upstairs, no sleepyhead, quiet.

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Sparrowlegs248 · 24/08/2017 19:12

I meant to say overthink.

I don't really know why i've posted this. Just a lot of waffle.

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FATEdestiny · 24/08/2017 19:24

That change to 'proper bedtime' is a good time to establish a new way of doing things. I'd say it's a good time to stop using the sleepyhead routinely.

I would still keep it handy, but just for nights baby is struggling to drop off or if you know he's over-tired.

MiniMaxi · 24/08/2017 19:25

Try not to stress!

I worried about DS going upstairs, and I worried about removing the sleepyhead. Both were fine! (He still doesn't sleep through though!!)

Sparrowlegs248 · 24/08/2017 19:27

He's dicking around in his cot. I also have a wedge in for reflux, I think I should probably take that out too (reflux is much better) as he's currently the wrong way up on it......

Do I just leave him to it? Stay with him til he's asleep? He's so different from.ds1. He's got a couple of teddies that he's playing with.

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Sparrowlegs248 · 24/08/2017 20:41

I'm actually a bit loathe to change things. I've spent months sitting upstairs with ds1. I can read his stories, milk, cuddle and put him in the cot and leave now.

I've just spent over an hour sitting up there with Ds2. I can't imagine husband will want to do it (stbx may not be here much longer).

I suppose he's got to go to bed sometime though. He rolled about for ages, went quiet and rubbed his toy. Then started rolling again, grinning at me bless him. I picked him up bf him then put him back again. Not really ideal but it works and I want to have a bath.

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FATEdestiny · 24/08/2017 21:16

If hes safe (ie can't roll out of cot/bed) and isn't distressed, id I'd just ignore.

Personally speaking, I would spend 20 mins or so lying on the opposite side of the bed to the cot, facing away and on my phone until baby stopped sucking around and went to sleep of own accord. (But being there for dummy reinsert or extra reassurance if that is needed).

If I'm totally honest though I just used to do that because it got me 20 minutes of quiet "me time" without having to deal with the other kids at bedtime. I enjoyed the silence and calm of baby's bedtime, so was in no rush to leave baby alone. If it was more necessary for me to do other stuff, if baby was non distressed I'd just leave the room.

FATEdestiny · 24/08/2017 21:17

That was supposed to say dicking around. Autocorrect prefers sucking.

Sparrowlegs248 · 24/08/2017 21:37

Thanks Fate. I've only just stopped doing the playing on the phone thing with Ds1, and while I.dp like the quiet time, this evening after Ds2 went to sleep I've whizzed around the house like a naiac tidying, sorting washing, had a sandwich, fed and medicated cats, had a quick bath and he's woken up. I suppose any chance of less fraught evenings are a long way off.

I think.im.going to keep the sleepyhead for a bit thinking about it. Though if o do that he may as well be in it downstairs and actually stay asleep.

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crazycatlady5 · 24/08/2017 22:02

I took the sleephead away from my 6 month old thinking she was ready and for a few weeks wondered why she seemed so uncomfortable. I then clocked it could be the sleepyhead, put it back in, and she's less restless. Definitely think it wasn't the right time for us x

Sparrowlegs248 · 24/08/2017 22:47

He's currently sleeping with my bf pillow, the V bit under his legs and each 'arm' going up either side of him. He loves to be snuggled up to something.

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Sparrowlegs248 · 24/08/2017 22:51

Spoke too soon.

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