Help with 9 weeks old sleep

[pepperlookslikebumcheeks]

I was wondering if there are any other mums out there who might be able to give me some pointers for a bit of sleep training? My DD is 9 weeks old and generally sleeps ok, but she sleeps from about 10pm to 10am and quite a lot of the time 12-12

If I try and put her down earlier she is a nightmare and screams the place down. Should I start to do it gradually maybe a bit earlier each night and a bit earlier each morning?
Tia

At 9 weeks old, I wouldn't consider any sleep training at all. She's tiny and needs to sleep and eat when she feels.

What do you do during the day? Any baby groups? Walks? This will stimulate her and start to give some pattern for you both (e.g. Wake up, feed, play, nap and repeat)

The fact your baby is sleeping 10-10 is a miracle at that age!

Thank you appraiser for replying. She does wake up a couple of times whilst she's asleep for a bottle but then goes straight back to sleep.
We don't do any baby groups but I do try and get out every day for a walk or to the shops if it's raining (mostly as I start getting cabin fever!)
Relieved to hear that it's ok at that age - some people have said I am making a rod for my own back letting her stay up that late.
Perhaps I should maybe start getting out in the mornings instead and see if that changes the pattern rather than faffing around at home haha.

This is totally normal for a 9 week old. They don't have normal sleep patterns yet, you don't need to worry about routines for quite some time (we don't have one at 6 months but that's personal choice). There's alt of pressure out there to get babies to sleep 7-7 or such like but they're just not programmed to do that at the beginning. Don't force it, it will come x

I said to someone the other day, there isn't a rule book for your baby. You do what works for you and your family - it'll always be different to your best friend/sister/other parents. A 12 hour sleep is utterly amazing and I would definitely not be trying to change it unless, as above, it doesn't suit your needs/your family needs.

To give you an idea of our "pattern" at that age:
Wake - anytime from 5.30-7.30 (inconsistent)
Feed - 5.30-9.30 (on/off)
Nap - 9.30-12.30
Feed - 12.30
Play - pm
Feed/ Nap - late pm
Feed - 5-10pm "Aresnic hours" on / off /on/off
Sleep - 10pm but up every 1-2 hours

You just go with their pattern and needs and have good / bad days, sleep when they are if you're knackered (I did this a lot).

Thank you all for your replies I will just keep taking cues from baby as to what she needs when she needs it. I think you are right there is a lot of pressure around to have your babies "perfect" which is why as a FTM I was worrying I was doing it all wrong.

People must have been under a lot of stress years ago before the likes of the internet and Mumsnet for advice! Thank you xx

Sounds like you are a fab mum OP. Try not to worry too much

pepperlookslikebumcheeks does your baby sleep during the day? What kinds of times?

Fate - yes usually all morning, has some awake time in the early afternoon and then again in the early evening and then on and off really

Sounds fine in that case. I realky really wouldn't worry too much about day/night at this age. Baby basically wants to be sleepung most of the time, day and night.

It's not unusual for some babies to sleep as much as 20h in 24h. So just waking periodically for a 20 minute feed and straight back to sleep. It sounds like your baby is just sleeping a lot, which is quite normal.