Baby will only sleep on me during the day

[Turno1]

Don't get me wrong, I love having cuddles with my 4 week old. During night he will go in his Moses basket at 8pm and sleep. However, during day when it is just me and him, he will only sleep on me. as soon as I put him down, he will cry. Husband and grand parents can put him down ok, but with me he just won't unless he is on me. This is wonderful, but I worry should I be getting him used to his crib in the day? Some people say make the most of it as it will wear off and he is too young to learn and still thinks he is part of me and others say to put him in his crib every opportunity so he does not become more difficult to go in his crib. I would say whilst he is on me it means I can't sleep, so when people say sleep when baby sleeps,!i don't get chance to do this. Love to hear from others whose little one did the same.

It's sounds like normal baby sleep to me. My little one was the same.

You will get some strong views on this saying do this or do that. Especially off a couple of regular posters in this section. Don't beat yourself up too much that he won't do what you think he should. When I stopped doing that things were easier.

Do what you feel is best for you and makes you happier.

I used to get a brew and all the remotes pre sleep and go to the loo and catch up on my fave TV. I found it hard to sleep too but got some rest and me time. Or try gping up to your bed and lying down together-wpuld that work?

I learnt to embrace out last time and dont feel ive made problems for myself.. xxzxx good luck.... enjoy the snuggles

I don't want to worry you but I have a 17 month old who will only sleep on me! But I chose cosleeping and attachment parenting as I am luckily able to facilitate that lifestyle. If you want your baby to sleep on its own you will need to start some sleep solutions, there are many gentle methods available and your baby will definitely be able to sleep happily alone with a bit of patience

This is what Netflix is good for. I had to hold my dd constantly until she could walk and have to threaten to pick her up now. Enjoy the cuddles and make sure youve got all your supplies ready and been to the loo before you start.

I'd just like to say my baby was the same would only sleep on me. She is now at nursery and sleeps independently there without a problem. She can also sleep without me and go down but some days i choose to let her sleep on me still. I definitely didnt find a "solution" I suppose you only need a solution if you think its a problem. It's whatever suits you. Go with you instinct. I didn't do any kind of sleep training or whatever and havent had a problem. Surely if your baby feels love and secure independence will come but your baby is still so tiny. They behave differently with other people like grandparents etc.

My DD didn't sleep in the day in her cot until about 8 months old, some will tell you that they should but I personally think it is whatever you are happy with.

DD just began sleeping in her cot when she settled into a longer nap pattern. I loved having the sleepy newborn cuddles with her, especially as she is my last baby so I just wanted to enjoy every moment. I just used the time to watch shed loads of box sets on Netflix!

My daughter is now 6 months and it feels like yesterday she was 4 weeks and I was posting the same! Best thing someone told me was embrace it as it currently is. She is so busy now all the time I miss the days of watching endless boxsets and snuggling! I promise it won't be forever and all the cleaning and whatnot can wait x

Both mine did this! Was mostly fine with first one (I watched a lot of tv & my house was a tip) trickier with the second with a toddler to entertain. I would try not to stress about it. I did a bit & regret it now. If I was you I'd keep trying to put them down but then cuddle them if it doesn't work. One day they'll surprise you & stay down. Your baby is very tiny so it may happen sooner than you think. Good luck - I won't say try to enjoy the cuddles as know it's hard when you are tired & have stuff to do!

I always find with everything baby, anything is fine until I (emphasis on I) can't cope with it anymore. I don't care what other people's opinions are regarding cosleeping/rocking to sleep/strange routines/bedtimes etc but if I'm fed up I fix it. If I'm not, I continue.

If you are getting stressed out with baby only sleeping on you then my advice and what I would do is stop stressing about putting baby down and just do it. Over and over and over. Sometimes you will win, and sometimes it will go way better than you imagine. Sometimes you will be picking up and down and up and down but that's no worse than now so be brave, put baby down and don't stress when it doesn't work.

Thanks ladies, some great advice. I will get some box sets and films downloaded and get comfy. I know this time will soon pass and I will be back at work and will be wondering where that time has gone, so will make most of the cuddles whilst he is still tiny baby.

There are loads of no-crying, no distress ways to help baby go to sleep independantly of you, if you want that Turno1.

Baby being put down to sleep is not compulsory if you prefer the cuddles.

Baby sleeping on you is not compulsory if you prefer some personal space or sleep.

Neither should draw any judgment if done in no-crying, gentle ways. Both are possible without any distress or crying. So which is your preference?