Wits end! Help x

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Evening all 

DD is 14 months and really struggling at the moment with albeit constant ear infections / teething. Her sleep is ruined.

I'm literally at my wits end with it all. She's always been cuddled to sleep and we were hoping to start sleep training with her but she's struggling so much with her ears lately so that's on hold.

I'm not wanting to start sleep training while she's poorly but am worried soon it will be too late?!

She's starting each night (once she's asleep ) in her cot, this is only lasting a matter of hours until she's hysterical and comes in with me. We haven't let her "cry it out" before but I'm thinking that's the next step. She can't self settle. Once the ear problems started she's gone from sleeping all night in her own cot stirring perhaps once to in with me every night.

Have a missed the boat on sleeping training? And does anyone know if these chronic infections improve?

I'm of course going to wait until her ear is better to try big changes. And Is it cruel to change her routine while she is teething?

Feeling really lost with it all so sad for her and so depleted myself 

Try olbas oil near her cot in boiling water the capers help with ears

Have you thought of getting her a toddler bed? DD was much happier in that

This sounds obvious, but you are seeing a doctor about her ear infections aren't you?

I wouldn't do any sleep training if she is in pain poor wee mite. I know it's awful and exhausting and frustrating but until the ear infections are under control I would just do the cuddling and co sleeping.

Is the toddler bed helpful in terms of more space for her greentulip? I hadn't thought of that

We've seen a docs four times so far and have an appointment to discuss what we can do next at the end of the month.

She's had three lots of antibiotics in 2 months and now is on her latest infection which we are trying without antibiotics just cuddles and calpol to see how that goes. She has ulcers and thrush in her nose from the antibiotics. It's been months that she's been well for longer than a week.

I think the cuddles and comfort do help her it's more worrying this is it for us sleeping now until she's older?

No no don't worry. It's never too late to improve sleep. For now just get what rest you all can.

I wouldn't even think about doing anything only surviving.

Often times the pressure in ears is worse when lying down so night times can be worse for ear problems. Just do whatever you have to to get yourselves through the illness stage and worry about sleep when she is better.

There is no boat. You haven't missed it. Every hour you sleep is a miracle until age 3.

I hope she feels better soon. Good luck to you all.

Once she's in with you does she sleep? If she does then I'd just do that to be honest! My Ds is 14 months old and has never come close to sleeping through the night, not once and that's without the additional challenges with her ears. We now have our mattress on the floor with a cot on lowest setting and one side removed attached to it. Means Ds is in his own space but I can deal quickly with wake ups and don't need to get out of bed.

I figure nothing lasts forever! I hope your DD gets better really soon.