When to put baby in their own room...

[alicelake]

I have a newborn, so don't plan on putting her in her own room for some time yet. And my partner has 6 weeks off work, however when he goes back he he's a job that requires him to be on call, and have a beeper that will likely go off at least once a night. So I fear this may disturb dds routine. So wondered if anyone else had this, or if you put dc in their room early?

It's advised to keep them in with you until 6 months old to help prevent cot death. Both mine were about 8 months old when they moved rooms

You could always put a single bed in your DDs room and sleep in there full time. You will, ultimately, need a single bed anyway so it's not a waste of money.

As mentioned, SIDS recommendations are that baby sleeps in the same room you are for the first 6 months at least.

www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/room-sharing/

Incidentally, that includes all times baby is asleep - including evenings and daytime, as well as all night.

You'll find people who don't follow tgis aspect of SIDS guidelines. Just as you'll find people who don't follow other aspects of SIDS guidelines. It is for you to make your own decision based on your thoughts about risk management.

Can he sleep elsewhere on his On Call nights?

My husband is sometimes on call. He sleeps elsewhere those days.

DH gets up very early for work at least one morning a week (4.45). He used to use his phone alarm but it tended to either wake and unsettle DC or wake an unsettle me - and with interrupted nights I couldn't cope with the extra wake up. He now uses a silent vibrating wristband alarm which is fine, he gets dressed quietly and then leaves the room. If a vibrating pager isn't an option I think you'll want to consider a separate room for him not the baby for your own sake unless you have a really good sleeper - if you are up every 2 to 3 hours the last thing you need is something else waking you up.

I moved my baby at about 6 months. We don't have on call issues like you but say one of us got ill we'd sleep in another room so we didn't disturb the other person or baby

Moved both DC in to own room at 6-8 weeks, we all slept a lot better.

That's part of the issue with SIDS as they do sleep deeper when away from the parents. That's the reason they should stay in with you, so they don't go into too deep a sleep and then they are harder to rouse again

Suited our family well. And many babies including my generation and before when it was unheard of to sleep in the same room as baby and when new mothers slept apart from their babies in hospital.

Yes and that's why the incidence of sids has gone down as room sharing increased

It's recommended that they stay in with the parents until at least 6 months.
I only moved my toddler when he was 16 months, and that was only because we wanted him to go in his toddler bed.

SIDS is very rare, you're more likely to get run over crossing the road with baby.

Ds was out of his Moses at 3 months I moved in to the nursery with him as there was a spare single bed in there already.

I hadn't expected to be there long but we ended up with me staying there with him until he was 6 months old it was just easier with night wakings and sleep regression

Everyone can do their own risk assessment. I decided to go with sids guidelines as I could then be sure I had done everything to minimise risk. I wouldn't have forgiven myself if something had happened and I had gone against guidelines. Some people aren't aware of the guidelines though or choose to ignore them but that's up to them

She's 9 months and I sleep in her room with her. She still feeds once in the night and wakes in the night every time we hit a new developmental growth spurt - I have no desire to go between 2 rooms when this happens so its easiest we are in the same room.

Our aim is to have her sleeping through by 1 year and for me to move back into my room then as I will be going back to work.

About 3/4 years old.

My little boy went in to his own room and cot at 9 weeks as just a test as he was too big for his crib. He preferred his cot so I stuck with it, will all slept better

You could always put a single bed in your DDs room and sleep in there full time.

This is what we did, then as he started sleeping better around the ten month mark, I started sleeping in our room next door again with the monitor. I'd go through and co-sleep with him when he woke up.

One day before his first birthday, he started sleeping through the night, no sleep training required despite him being fed to sleep and having me sleeping alongside him for most of his life.

It's now been a couple of weeks of 11-12 hour stretches, but I still wake up a couple of times!