Need some serious help

[Aliveinwanderland]

We are at our wits end with our 9 month old DS. He has always woken a lot in the night and been breastfeed back to sleep but at 6:30pm would go down in his cot and self settle to sleep. A month ago he stopped doing this and screams every time we put him in the cot. If I take him back out and put him on our bed he rolls around laughing but screams again the minute we go back into his room.

We have been putting him in our bed and cosleeping but I can't keep doing this. For starters going to bed when he does isn't practical (he can't be unsupervised on our bed as he can roll off). We also don't get much sleep and don't get any time to ourselves.

It has been taking from 7pm until 9/10pm for him to go to sleep and we are at our wits end.

I need some advise, or th contact details of a decent sleep consultant as we can carry on like this anymore.

Sleep consultant made all the difference in the world for me a few months ago for every reason Fate has mentioned. As a FTM, I was so confused by all the conflicting advice I was receiving and whilst I did my best to stay consistent, hindsight shows me I was anything but. It was the best £100 I spent.

I still bf and still have occasional disrupted nights due to regressions. She feeds once at night and I am happy to continue giving this to her until she is ready to drop it. However, I am certain that feed is for comfort and I could train her to drop it from now if it was necessary. One big difference between my situation and yours is that I still sleep in the same room as her - I have a bed and cot in her room and I am currently on the bed. I will move back to mine when I feel she is past the stage of separation anxiety (exactly same age as yours so we are also in the middle of it) and stops sitting/attempting to stand in her sleep.

If you aren't ready to give up bf, don't feel you have to do so. You can stop feeding during the day and just continue morning and evening feeds if it suits you

Riddles would you mind messaging me the details of the person you used please?

I also had all of my children in the cot next to my bed through this stage.