14 Month old takes hours to get to sleep? Attachment Smattachment?

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Hi All,

This is my first blog thing. I am now feeling quite desperate. My 14 month old girl seems to take hours to sleep. She used to go into a cot in her own room from 4/5 months, I would co-sleep if she was ill or upset, or stay in the single bed in her room with her. I nurse her still. She turned 1 and decided she hated the cot, it became exhausting sitting with her, climbing into her cot and she began to sleep so lightly I couldn't sneak away. Fair enough, I began to co-sleep with her in the single bed. We both slept much better - happier mum. She still wakes 4+ times a night to nurse / comfort that's grand. What has not been good is that I have been in bed with her from 7.30pm (awake for hours). I haven't slept in the same room as her dad for months so that's not good. I sleep with her during the day for her (recently transitioned to one nap) 2 hour nap. I'm with her a lot. This can't be good.

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I didn't finish the last thread and it somehow posted...tired...fed up

Now when we do our routine which I have pretty much done from birth it doesn't seem to make a blind bit of difference, she is up for 1-2 hours every evening after we have done her routine. I feel like she is in control of me, not that it should be about control exactly - she thinks it's a game. I do the no eye contact thing, I keep putting her back down on the bed - she thinks it's a game. I have got so annoyed lately I have been less than gentle and shouted at her a few times - I feel like a monster, out of control crap mum.

I fall towards the attachment side of parenting approach however I don't think it is healthy when it is bedtime to just let her run riot. I have tried different times, doesn't make a difference. I say to her about 50 times, it's time to sleep while putting her into the bed gently, around the 51st time I just start to feel so angry and frustrated..I don't seem to naturally have the tools or repertoire to guide her to go to sleep...help! Many thanks - me x

Go back to 2 naps!