Does it always happen?

[Tootsio]

Does anyone know if it's true that a mother determines the sleeping patterns of her baby? Is it in the genes?
I am curious to know as am considering surrogacy thus would like to know what to look out for. Might mean looking for one not too jumpy by nature since I want my baby to sleep well at night.
Is this true or am I listening to too many old housewives' tales, perhaps? My DH is of the calm nature, therefore, banking on the baby taking on his nature. Or am I being overly concerned?

I've never heard that. No offence but that seems like an odd priority in choosing a surrogate. Little babies (and often toddlers) will wake up at night. I'm much more relaxed about night wakings now I've accepted that fact. I wake up at night to have a drink, go to the loo, husbands snoring wakes me etc etc. It's normal to wake over night

All sorts of things determine sleep patterns.

I agree with county. Surrogacy is such a difficult process that you'll find it tough to be picky. Sleeping patterns also change when pregnant. Before I got pregnant I could sleep through anything but 6 month pregnant I wake up if my husband rolls over in bed.

I haven't heard this theory before, but given the number of families I know where siblings had very different sleeping patterns as babies, I really doubt it. Also, bad-sleeping babies don't necessarily grow into "jumpy" adults.

Appreciate you want your baby to be a good sleeper (don't we all!) but this isn't something you can make happen with genetics.

no. Some parents have 3 kids, one amazing sleeper, one lousy sleeper and the third just ahs to fit in naps between school runs if they can.

not in genes, and if it is, you cannot predict which bit of the genes they will inherit.

But things like a calm nature can beinherited. But again, who knows which gene the will inherit

am considering surrogacy thus would like to know what to look out for. Might mean looking for one not too jumpy by nature

Doesn't a surrogate have no genetic link to the child?

Oh well! Guess it was just one of those things that go around regarding babies. There are tons of stories and if we listen to them all would be scared to even think of conceiving.
Thanks for your thoughts, that's one less worry I have off my list. Believe me, I have a number left to tackle. Goes with the territory, I guess.

Fate - usually a surrogate means they use their own egg and a gestational carrier would be where someone else's egg is used. Although I believe often "surrogate" is used interchangeably between the 2.