2yo is angel for nanny but devil for me - help with naps please! !

[SydBound27]

My 2yo seems to be on the way to dropping a nap. For her nanny (three days a week) she goes straight to sleep at 12.30 for 2 hours and has to be woken up. The two days when I'm with her, she messes around in her cot, takes off her nappy (I've tried EVERY method to keep it on her but she's houdini, even backwards sleep suits etc) and refuses to nap. She is clearly tired before nap time, and is then a demon all afternoon because she's tired.

Today I've put her nappy back on 15 times telling her firmly it is not okay and have left her completely naked in her cot knowing it will end in disaster.

I know she can nap nicely, and i also know she's going to be a little asshole for me because I'm mummy, but seriously how the fuck do I deal with this?

Please any help to get her to even lie down and TRY to nap (keeping her nappy on) would be so much appreciated. So over feeling like such a failure.

Could you ask your nanny for tips? She would be the best possible person to help you.

Do you ever get to watch her put your DD down for a nap?

Dunno but my nearly three year old sleeps religiously at nursery and has not graced me with a nap for 6 months. My guess is they set a better routine when younger.

are you wearing her out the same as the Nanny does? If your round the house doing chores in the morning then she won't be as tired.
Or she may just be near dropping her nap. My 2 year old rarely naps now

Take an afternoon off so you can observe how nanny does it?

Mine have always napped better and longer with nanny than me. I don't mind it as we can have days out and they go to bed at night a bit easier but if you want to keep the nap I think you have to be as consistent and boring as possible. If we are not out we have quiet time instead of a nap - which is basically low energy parenting for me 45mins cbeebies etc for DS.

I am a nanny. My toddler will go to sleep with me more or less immediatley/or within a couple of minutes of being put in cot. For mum I've witnessed 40 odd minutes.

When I do nap it's warning then straight upto bed intosleeping bag or under the duvet and leave in cot they may shout for a minute or two but generally straight to sleep. If mum does it she goes in and out and picks toddler up/cuddles/comforts and they just do the whole delaying trick.

Thanks everyone. I've witnessed the nanny putting her down loads - she does it with minimal fuss, and I do a lot more winding down so maybe that's it. I do very little cuddles/comfort when she cries - very firm believer of cc!

Doesn't seem to make a difference whether I take her swimming or just potter in the morning so not sure it's whether I'm tiring her out.

She went down 2 hours after going to her cot, completely naked and I had to half put on her nappy while she slept. Woke her up after an hour and she seems alright.

I'll give your/the nannys method a try @evidence and keep you posted. Thanks all! X