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Please help - can't figure out why my 11 month old does this

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smallplainblonde · 10/07/2017 20:20

I have an 11 month old dd and she was a great sleeper to start with. She is FF and dropped night feeds v early, I think around 8 weeks. She has always been good at self settling, I can put her down in her cot and she will drift off herself.

My issue is she just will not sleep through the night. For a good few months she would wake anywhere from 2-8 times a night crying but just for her dummy and would go back asleep again no problem.

The last few weeks/months (I don't even know when this started now!!) she has been waking about an hour or 2 after she goes to sleep and is hysterical, will not take her dummy etc. It sounds like she is in pain but then I bring her into our bedroom and lay her down and she settles straight away and is happy and wants to play. Once she's calmed down I manage to get her back into the cot and asleep but this takes at the v least 30 mins. She can then wake numerous times during the night, I try not to pick her up, just rub her belly, shush her etc but she gets hysterical. I then end up brining her into bed with us.

Last night she went to sleep and slept through until half 6! I was estatic! But tonight it's back to normal Sad

I've tried changing her nap times too but day time sleep doesn't seem to make any difference!

Can anyone offer any advice? We are lucky in that we have loads of family around who would babysit and I would love to go out to the cinema or something with my husband but I can't leave her when she's like this.

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Bethan2 · 10/07/2017 20:23

Hi there, do you try and offer her a feed at night? Does she have lots of solids during the day? X

Itsjustaphase84 · 10/07/2017 20:29

Teeth? As above what's her day feeding like? Usually these things last a few weeks imo.

smallplainblonde · 10/07/2017 20:32

Hi Bethan, I have tried that a couple of times but it's made no difference. She's a great eater, I think she eats a lot. She has a bottle first thing, weetabix and cows milk for breakfast, a mid morning snack of fruit and rice cakes, lunch time she'll have an Annabel Karmel meal that I've made (in a 6oz tub which is apparently the correct portion size for her age). She'll have a yoghurt and maybe more fruit after her afternoon nap and then whatever we have for dinner or if it's not suitable she'll have scrambled egg and toast or similar and fruit. 7oz bottle before bed. She lost a lot of interest in milk once she got into her food.

I think if she was hungry she would cry until she got a bottle but literally as soon as she gets to our bed she is happy. I can't leave her there as she moves so much in her sleep and ends up sideways. For the same reason I'm not overly keen to co-sleep on a permanent basis.

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Justhadmyhaircut · 10/07/2017 20:35

Stop lifting her out of the cot!! Aahh!!
Weetabix and a bottle for supper. .
Send dh in if its been you taking her into your bed!! Let him settle her - she associates you now with night time play time!!

catsofa · 10/07/2017 20:36

Separation anxiety?

smallplainblonde · 10/07/2017 20:36

Just, I know what you're saying about lifting her out but if I leave her she gets hysterical. It's awful! DH takes turns with me and she's the exact same for him.

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FATEdestiny · 10/07/2017 21:29

Could you bring the cot next to your bed in your bedroom?

No need for you to get up to settle her then. Also teaches her that she'll be going to sleep in the cot, not being picked up.

Then once she's more settled and secure in her night sleep, move the cot back to her room.

smallplainblonde · 10/07/2017 21:32

Hi Fate, unfortunately we wouldn't have room in our bedroom for the cot. She does go asleep in the cot no problem and for most of her naps too. I just don't know what wakes her and makes her so hysterical.

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