Please can someone offer a handhold / reassurance. I'm a regular MNer but have NC.
I have a 9 month old dd. The last two / three months have been awful sleepwise - I've been at the edge of my sanity it felt. She's always been bf to sleep. Won't take a dummy. But started to be waking constantly and constantly needed the boob to resettle. Bad nights, very overtired and naps were getting worse.
Started to sleep train 4 nights ago. Using PU/PD with patting and shushing. Never leaving the room. Trying to be gentle.
Night one she fell asleep on Dh shoulder - which wasn't our intention. The last two nights she's fallen asleep in her cot. Which is our aim. So unsure if this is night 3 or 4 iykwim.
She's screaming blue murder up there. Doesn't sound distressed she sounds absolutely fucking livid!
I've stayed away since we started training. I say goodnight and Dh takes over.
My boobs feel flat - she's been fed. So she's not hungry / ill / teething etc. But I know the only way to calm her is to bf her and she'll pass out on my boob - which is what we're trying to stop! Or, she'll get more boob - which she doesn't need.
I feel helpless. My baby is screaming. But if I go to her what's been the point of the last few nights?! Just to reiterate, she's not by herself my Dh is with her and comforting her (or at least trying to).
Please can someone reassure me we're doing the right thing. Please, please be gentle with me 😢sleep training has been a huge step for us. It needs to be done - I know that as I can't go on how it was.
Please be gentle with me.