Sleep regression or is the baby just having my life!

[chipscheeseandgravy]

PFB is 10 months next week. He's always been good at settling to sleep. Bath, bottle and bed and he would fall asleep in about 5/10 mins with no grumbling. He wakes up during the night for a bottle but again would settle and we would get up with him about 6am. All good.!.
In the last few weeks he's got worse and worse. He will only only go in his cot if he's been rocked to sleep and then gently placed into his cot. If an eye opens as soon as his back touches the mattress he starts screaming. He is basically inconsolable when this happens, we have to get him out his cot and then start the process all over again (rocking to sleep etc). He doesn't settle during the night ever. Most nights he ends up in our bed and we get kicked awake about 5am.
He doesn't have a dummy and never has. He just wasn't interested in one.
Does anyone have any suggestions. I'm currently trying to put him down for the 3rd time in an hour.

We has the exactly the same. Dd is now 12 months. She can self settle but still wakes through the night abd ends up in with us (not what you want to hear I know!)

The fact she can get back to sleep is a step up from where we're at. . We're too soft, He'll probably be still climbing in our bed when he's 15

Could you bring the cot back into your room? At least then instead of cosleeping, you can settle in the cot.

The key thing with your issue is that baby needs to go to sleep in the cot. You could do with completely separating feeding and sleeping.

Fate, he just won't settle, if he's in his cot he just screams and screams, we have no idea how to get him to settle in his cot. We tried controlled crying and we would go in every 5 mins, stroke his hair and walk out, we did that for 2 hours. He still didn't calm down, you could hear him down the street.
He doesn't need milk to sleep, he can sleep through, but he's had a lot of stomach issues so he's not a big eater, hence him not sleeping through and wanting milk at the minen. It's only once a night so it's not bad, it's just he then won't settle

A bottle in the night is really unnecessary at 10 months though. This is especially true when formula feeding. Breastfeeding is more about comfort than milk so it is different.

I would make sure the bedtime milk feed happens first in the bedtime routine. Say milk feed downstairs, upstairs for bath, brush teeth, into night clothes and sleep time.

I would also night wean. Instead of milk, work on a way of consistantly establishing a settling technique.

I'd then, if it was me, remove one side off the cot and wedge it up to my bed. Ar sleep time I would lie on my bed, baby in sidecar cot. Id cuddle right into thr cot with the whole of the top half of my body.

Have a comforter you. I'd establish a dummy too, otherwise there'll be lots of crying.

Then I'd be relentless about it. Lie next to baby. Eye contact, cuddles, shushing, keep your hand on baby's chest. Try to still baby, so hold hands if arms of flaying, place a hand on legs if lots of kicking. Just be consistant about it through all of the crying.

Comforter toy* (autocorrect)

He very underweight for his age (2ndcentile, we are under the care of the consultant and the dietician). The fact he wakes for milk isn't a massive issue, it's more he just doesn't settle any longer. He's never needed feeding to sleep. We would feed him, wind him and pop him in his cot and he would happily fall asleep on his own with his mobile playing. It all seems to have happened at the same time I've gone back to work and dp is now responsible for bed time. He has an annoying habit of letting him sleep before he does his bath. I think baby is just confused about when it's nap time and sleep time.
we now can't get him to lay in his cot without screaming the house down.
Our room isn't big enough for the cot next to the bed and our bed has a wooden frame round the edge and I'd be scared of baby getting stuck between the wooden frame and the mattress. He's a real wriggler.
I've finally got him down by stroking his hair.
Wonder if it's too late to return him