10 months waking 2 hourly to BF

[Daytona79]

I co sleep with my 10 month old and I could set my watch with his wakings

10pm 12am 2am 4am then up for day at 5.30am

I'm shattered with him , not had more than 4 hours sleep in nearly 3 years - also got a bad sleeping toddler but he has finally started sleeping through the last few months

Back to work soon and wondering how I will cope

I've tried not feeding him when he wakes but he screams his head off

He is a bottle refuser and refuses formula as I've tried it from a cup I would like to be just doing a morning and night BF now with formula during day and no feeds at night with hope of weaning to cows milk in two months time.

But it seems impossible he just goes mental if I don't offer him boob at night

He eats well during day with food but not so withbreast milk, it's hard to get him to take s feed in day time unless it's his nap as he too distracted to feed otherwise

Help what can I do..? Was thinking of letting husband just sleep with him a few nights but is that a shame go suddenly not let him feed during night he will prob scream place down

Sorry no help from me,
I'm in the exact same situation with my 8MO but also trying to move him into his own room (not co-sleeping) so watching with interest for any advice..

Help what can I do..? Was thinking of letting husband just sleep with him a few nights but is that a shame go suddenly not let him feed during night he will prob scream place down

I would say that's exactly what you need to do. And I wouldn't drip-feed it, I think going straight to no night feeds is the best way to do this. It then removes all confusion "will she feed me this time or not?".

At 10 months baby doesn't need calories from night feeds. Certainly not that many. What baby does need though is comfort. So as long as Dad is there to comfort throughout and you establish alternate independant comfort (soft toy, blankie etc), then it's ok. Yes, baby will scream. Understanding, but at this age it shouldn't be for weeks on end. With consustancy yoy should be over the worst within a week.

If you want to wean from the breast completely, doing it at the same time might be a good idea. Be aware of engorgment though. With that much feeding overnight, your boobs will be ready to explode by the morning.

Ha ha hi fate

I think we will try a night in with husband and see how it goes I know I'm wimpy though so if I hear him screaming I'm not sure I could not go in , will give it a try

Yeah I'm looking to quit breast feeding by 12 months as returning to work and also just had enough now so happy for him to move over to cows milk then

Hmm, I think your baby doesn't need all those feeds.

Can you start withdrawing your availability to him?

Could start with you moving out of the room or putting him in his own room. I'm sure it will be very hard but you need to do it for your own sanity!

Then maybe you could reduce feeds gradually.

Definitely send your DP to bed with DC, it has worked for us. My dd feeds to sleep and cosleeps and has recently gone from 1-2 wakings a night to what feels like millions mostly in the early hours. But last night she had done just under 3 hours without waking and as I wanted to finish a program I was watching DP went up before me, him getting into bed woke her up but after a bit of crying and nuzzling him for boob she went back to sleep being cuddled with lots of shhhing, I was watching on the monitor and made myself a cup of tea and enjoyed it hot! When I joined them she just rolled over to me for a quick cuddle and was straight back to sleep.

I have also been working on getting her to sleep without bf lying down next to her, dancing around for about half an hour with music playing quite loudly has worked and she is deep enough to sleep I can put her down without her waking. I have been doing this randomly at bedtime or for naps and it seems to be working.

I'd like to know how to introduce a toy or blanket as a sleep aid though, dd doesn't seem particularly attached to anything but she did used to sleep well when I put one of mine or DPs worn tshirts over her cot mattress. Do I need to make it smell like us or just consistently have the object at naps and bedtime?