Where have we gone wrong???

[pelvicflawed]

DS is 10 mths and started nursery 3 days a week two weeks ago uptil then he was a fairly good sleeper 8-6.30/7 ish and when he did wake early he was fairly quite about it. He used to nap for about 1-1 1/2 hrs a day. Since starting nursery he won't nap there more than 45 mins despite the staff trying hard. He's now started waking at 5am having a complete tantrum and won't go back to sleep or settle if we leave the room. Today I've just tried putting him down for his nap in his cotand he's screamed for 20 mins non-stop so I have bought him downstairs to get him to nap in his playpen/travel cot - I've pulled the curtains/snuggly balnket/I'm close and he's screaming - agghhh - what are we doing wrong. DH and I are getting fed up/stressed and tired - its not so much the early waking as the screaming if we leave the room after settling him/inability to nap. Not sure whether this is linked to him starting nursery/DS having a tummy bug a few weeks ago which woke him at night or perhaps because he's going to bed earlier (7-7.15 - he's shattered if he dosen't have a nap so wouldn't last any longer) sorry to ramble - any help would be wonderful - thanks

Should also add he's teething - so really can't work out the problem!!!!!!!. We give him calpol when we think its bad but don't wantto end up using this as crutch when he just throws a wobbly at 5 am. After 45 mins he's just dosed off......but I don't think for long as he has just filled his nappy!

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I think I would get him to nap when you're out and about tbh. If you want him to nap at a certain time go for a long walk. The fresh air will do both of you good.

Thanks littlelapin - I think there there is degree of seperation anxiety as he keeps crying if I leave the room - its strange but I just didn't expect it I suppose as so far he's been a bold/confident/ unclingy sort of little chap - good to know I'm not alone

Ok - fairly desperate now up since 3.30 am with screaming - pretty sure now its about leaving him as he'll go to sleep with us in the room but cries as soon as we leave. The only way to get him to sleep was with him in bed with DH and me relegated to a cold spare room - really cheesed off with it - was supposed to be going to mothers this w/e but have cancled as we are too tired and don't want him keeping more people up -HELP!!! Thanks

pelvicflawed, my ds started separation anxiety at about 10 months without going to nursery . He's now 2.5y and started at new nursery and on those evenings he's VERY cuddly. I know it's tough when they don't sleep, I haven't had a decent nights sleep in about 5 years, both my kids not being brilliant sleepers. But if your ds used to sleep well then I'm quite sure it's a phase due to new routine, teething etc. Haven't got much advice as every tod is different, but for ds it worked to walk in, settle him, reassure him that I'll come when he cries and tell him mama loves him

good luck