Should I let her cry it out

[AlliEverwantedx]

Recently my 2.5 yr old dd when being put to bed cries and starts trying to get out. I've been reading her stories every night which used to settle her down but now she's crying over them🙈

If I leave the room she's screams mumma and I end up giving in and she comes back downstairs until gone 11pm, normally she would be in bed by 8pm.

Should I just let her cry when putting her down? I hate it when she's starts calling me then I feel like I can't leave her, Dh says she's got me round her little finger and knows I'll come and pick her up.

Have you tried sitting in the room with her until she falls asleep?

God don't start sitting in her room with her, you'll be there doing it for years.

I agree with your husband, just keep re-itterating that its bedtime and Mummy is just downstairs and then leave her. You can always shout up that you're still here, but its sleep time. Not being asleep until 11pm is not good for a 2 year old.
Alternatively you could just go out every night for a week and let your DH do it!

Only those with a poor understanding on sleep development would be say doing it for years underneaththeash. Those with a better understanding of gradual withdrawal might have realistic expectations that it's not a quick fix, but won't still be say in there a year down the line. However, there is a lot of poor understanding of gradual withdrawal around.

AlliEverwantedx - is your toddler in a bed or a cot? If a bed, when did you stop using the cot?

I tried everything and had an awful time...do you know, in the end I just gave in! I used to set up a little nest beside the bed, and sit in it with my laptop on a dim setting.

Mine are 12 and 9 now and have both gone to bed alone since they were about 4 or 5. They would let me go once they were old eonugh to have an audio book or relaxing music on...I struggled with it all for ages and then thought bugger this! She's tiny...I'm staying with her!

Not for everyone I know.

She is still in a cot want to get her in a bed soon though.

User I kind of see where your coming from I started thinking maybe she's seen something or something in her room is scaring her I know that might sound daft but when I was young even looking at something differently can freak you out.

I started to wander if she's really putting on the screaming and crying I think I might mother her to much

Has she got a light in her room? This is prime age for scared of the dark to start.

I'd sit with her. For this to work she needs to trust you'll stay until asleep. If you seek out before she's asleep she will start fighting to stay awake as a way to jerp you with her. Whereas you can remove that battle by staying until asleep. It's reasonable to expect ger to go to sleep with 10-15 minutes if she trusts you'll stay.

Then it's about a process of always giving enough reassurance, but in an ever withdrawing way.

So start sitting by the cot, firm hand on her chest/back and stay until asleep. Then start removing you hand when calm, hand back if distressed and withdrawn again once settled. Stay until asleep.

Then firm hand in chest/back to settle, stand and turn away from cot when settled. But stay right there all the time until asleep. Turn back round and settle with firm hand when distressed, turn back and wait when calm.

Then settle and step away from cot. Return if distressed, withdraw when calm. Stay until asleep.

Then settle and wait by doorway. Return if needed, withdraw when calm. Go back as many times as needed. Stay by door until asleep.

Then pop back and forth from doorway at sleep time. Then milk around upstairs, but not by door. Then close door but be upstairs until asleep to return quickly if called.

Then close door and leave...

No she doesn't have a light, but we leave her bedroom door open with the landing and bathroom light on all night.

Last night when I put her down she was screaming and I ended up saying "shhhh listen can you hear that?" She looked at me all confused but calmed down, then I said "can you hear a cow going moo moo" then I was like "oh my goodness I think I can hear a piggy too, is there a farm outside" she fell asleep within 10 minutes the things you do
I'll try what you've suggested thanks.