Do you actively try to get young babies to sleep?

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Ds2, 11wks tomorrow. I put ds1 to bed, husband has ds2. Just cone downstairs, he's in his playmates wide awake. He'd be asleep if I had him as I would have held him up on my shoulder and bobbed him about. He has reflux so likes to be upright a bit.

Husband thinks hell go to sleep when he's ready. And now he's crying.

Yeah kids have never just fallen asleep they always needed put to sleep.

Never too young to learn the difference between night time and day time. . Playing at this time of night is a bad idea imo!!

Absolutely!
I would take off to a quiet dark room and stroke here and feed.
I did it for both of mine.
Now 6&4 and their bedtime routine is so slick and they sleep 12 hours minimum. Never a problem bedtime and I put it mainly down to consistency from very early on.

Stroke "hair"

I suspect your dh is of that view because he can't be arsed with the effort involved. Putting on a playmate and hoping they drop off is less effort.
The reality though is a backdrop of screams as baby gets progressively more tired.

Yes, I think he thinks I make too much fuss. He put him in the playmates because he was still awake. He gives him a bottle, often hell fall asleep drinking it. If he doesn't he doesn't do anything to get him to sleep.

It annoys me as he think I'm criticising if I sat anything. And also, I'd quite like it to not be up to me when I've had the two of them all day.

I always did. The friends who have followed the "they'll sleep when they're tired" method are always complaining about their children not sleeping and being grumpy all the time.

Oh and yes I dealt with the non sleeping first baby totally alone. So it probably matters more to me.

Yes they need some kind of intervention, my 2 year old still can't 'self settle' and will just get very upset until she at least has a bedtime story and a cuddle

He was asleep within minutes of me taking him. I don't know how to get this across to him without him getting the hump.

With my two boys (easy sleepers), I was one of those annoying mums who's baby would just randomly go to sleep without any intervention under the playgym in the middle of a church hall surrounded by a dozen charging toddlers at playgroup.

All it needed was for me to realise it's about time baby has a nap and give baby a dummy whilst playing. That was it.

Not all children are that easy though. Both my girls were a whole different story...

Used to rock mine vigorously in my arms or bump the peak against my hip to get nosy DD to sleep.

*pram

Haha well Fate this one has slept through the noisiest toddler group known to man......but in the evenings, seems to appreciate a cuddle. I can put him down straight away and pit his music on and he settles, and stays asleep for 5-6 hrs so a real differetobds1!

Possibly one of the most shocking things I've ever witnessed was a baby's friend just falling asleep on a mat at playgroup - I looked over and thought "WTF, there are babies that do that!". Both of mine need/ed putting to sleep as babies.

My DH also doesn't try to put the baby to sleep unless I tell him to. And then generally gives up after 5 min as there are usually tears involved.

My girls were to fed to sleep or had to be rocked etc, my little boy is totally different. Lay him down, dummy in and he just goes off. It still amazes me every time and he's 4 months old! Couldn't be more different to his sisters if he tried!

I have an 11 week old and he wouldn't nap in the day unless I actively help him. In fact we are now not looking for sleep cues and just aiming for a nap 45 mins- 1 hour and a half after waking. By the time he does sleepy cues it's too late!

One of the worst bits of advice I kept being given was 'he'll sleep when he is tired'. Ah No he really won't he will just get more and more cranky!

So in our case yes! Luckily he is a good sleeper at night (currently... I am more than aware this will change!).