Controlled crying - the only way?

[moominmummy]

My dd has never slept through the night (now 7 months). I am too soft hearted according to my husband and should let her cry until she returns to sleep. Last night I tried to leave her at 10pm. My husband went in a couple of times and then I caved in after 40 minutes and fed her (breast). I know that it is a comfort thing for her but I do not have it in me to leave her to cry for long strecthes of time. Any suggestions would be gratefully recieved. She normally only wakes up once but still at 7 months surely I should expect a few interupted nights!

Sorry! Duplicated message - must be lack of sleep.

I never did controlled crying because it caused to much upset for me and dd - I think you have to decide whether if you continue to go to dd it will cause a problem between you and dh or if he can cope for a bit longer, I think it is really down to you to adopt the best plan of action for your family - I do not see it as a problem going in and comforting a child adn I do not think you are soft hearted you did what was necesary 40 mins is a long time to be left crying. I always gained strength from this quote " a baby that is left to cry longer than 10 mins will take a lot longer to settle, than one that is een to after 10mins" I can not remember where it was from but I found in dd's case if she had not settled in 10 mins tehn it was easiest to go to her than to wait.