What's the priority on this one? Please advise!!

[MeanBean]

I wasn't sure whether to put this in the sleep section or the potty training section. DD is two and 3 months and has just been potty-trained. She's been dry and clean for about 3 weeks in the daytime, and we're still at the whooping with joy and applauding stage when she uses her potty or the loo.

She's started to say she wants to do a weewee/ kaka when she's in bed. Sometimes, she genuinely does, but most of the time, it's just a time-wasting excuse to get out of bed. I don't want to tell her to do it in her nappy, because I don't want to give her mixed messages about where wee-wees should be done, but OTOH, I don't want her to mess me about calling me every 20 minutes in the evenings until she sleeps.

Has anyone got any words of wisdom on this?

DD is almost same age and has been PT'd since 24 months. And we have had a very similar situation recently. In the end I took to leaving the potty on a folded up towel next to her bed. Then if she really wants to go, she can go herself. She has a nightlight so can see if necessary. But TBH she rarely bothers now she knows we won't go in and take her to the toilet, etc.

We are in the exact same situation with ds and sing a made up song EVERY TIME he wees or poos in potty or loo!! I humour him when he tells me he wants to wee or poo at night because I dont want him to wet himself. It is a pain in the neck but I still do it.

Is she in a cot or a bed? Could she go by herself? DS is in a cot so cant go on his own... maybe that would help!

DD still does this and she's 5!! Sounds like a time wasting exercise to me. Solve this one and I bet she'll go for the 'tummy ache/thirsty/who shall I cuddle/but I need to tell you something' routine!! All you can do is to make sure that she doesn't need to go and tell her that the day has come to an end and that it's time to go to sleep etc etc. surrounded by lots of I love yous and see you in the mornings!!! Sorry not much help here but you're not alone!!

When ds did this just after he was trained we would take him to the toilet the first time he asked, but not any time after that. It took him 2 or 3 nights to get the message, and he tried it on again about once a week for the next month or so, but that was it. Of course, last thing before putting him to bed we would always sit him on the toilet in any case, so we knew that he didn't really need to go.

MeanBean i have just bought a musical potty. Would that help if she could go and then play the music herself to celebrate or am i being very naive here? am due to begin training when it stops raining.

A musical potty! Where do you get one of those? That sounds like it might work.

I like the suggestion of giving in once, and also, leaving the potty there and telling her that if she does need to go, she should do it without disturbing anyone because it's night time now.

Thanks everyone.