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What is going on - sleep patterns so chageable

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Tillysmummy · 05/06/2002 10:37

We have been experiencing some sleep problems lately. Dd is now almost 9 months.

She has been sleeping quite well the last few months , 7-7.30 till between 6 and 7, sometimes if we're lucky even a little later although generally not. Of course there are the odd bad days when she has been ill or sometimes for no apparent reason but these aren't frequent.

But the last week hasn't been good. She has been fine for a few nights but has had at least 3 or 4 bad nights. A bad night usually consists of great difficulty in settling her, which has been the case for the last week or so and then 2 or 3 wake ups during the night. She used to go down so well but recently she takes AGES, fussing for sometimes an hour. Why is this, because she wants to be up with us / she thinks she's missing out ?

Last night was the worst, she settled fine, no problem but from 10.30 onwards it was like having a newborn baby again, or worse. She was awake every couple of hours crying and was hard to settle - I'm knackered ! Any advice ?

The funny thing is that she stayed at my mums on Monday night because mum bought dh and I a night away for my birthday a couple of months ago and it's the first time I've left dd overnight so I was anticipating all sorts of problems but she was fine , went to sleep like an angel and slept right through till 6.30 with no wake ups !

I have been considering cutting her afternoon nap, normally between 1 and 2.30 so she's more tired and only has 1 1-2 hour nap in the morning but I don't know if she'll last that long. Also it doesn't seem to equate, when she has a bad night and how much sleep she has during the day because sometimes she'll have had a lot of day sleep and will sleep soundly all night and others she will have a little day sleep and will sleep soundly all night.

Her nap times are regular but the length varies. Normally between 1 - 1.5 hours but sometimes as little as 45 mins or as much as 2 hours.

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pupuce · 05/06/2002 11:04

It seems like it is just a phase to me....
Having said that one of my friends always had her DD have her big nap in the AM like you and she says it has always been fine but GF advises against that mainly because your child will fall into a very deep sleep in the evening and is liekly to have a disrupted night.
Don't know if you thibk that is relevant in your case.

Tillysmummy · 05/06/2002 11:09

Maybe, so does gf recommend an afternoon nap ? She normally has lunch at 12.30 and then goes to bed anywhere between 1 and 1.30 and then sleeps for about an hour, sometimes an hour and a half. But I never let her sleep past 3 - perhaps I should never let her sleep past 2 instead ?

I have resigned myself to it just being a phase. I think she has her molars coming through although I know it's very early (she did have her first two teeth at 7 weeks !!) - she has 3 little white dots on her gums at the back in two places. So it looks like buds to me ? I guess these could be causing problems.

Can anyone tell me, do these three white budgs mean they're coming through ?

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jolou1 · 05/06/2002 11:17

Tillysmummy - My ds is about the same age as your dd and has just started taking an age to settle at night. I just leave him to it and he babbles/sings/gurgles/shouts at the top of his voice for about an hour before he drops off. Trouble is, he does the same throughout the night (prompting us to switch off the monitor...he can be heard throughout the house anyway) I wonder if it's something to do with their rapid development at this stage. His naps are identical to your dd. At least DS is happy to shout & gurgle away in his cot on his own. I'm knackered from spending half the night having to listen to him!

pupuce · 05/06/2002 11:21

GF recommends a 30 to 45 minute nap at 9 AM and then a 2h nap at lunchtime... but it really is up to you

Tillysmummy · 05/06/2002 11:44

jolou1 it's a nightmare isn't it, even when dd wakes and babbles (which she frequently does in the early morning) - we still can't sleep even if she's not crying because we can hear her.

Pupuce, I may give that a go tomorrow. Thx.

L

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pupuce · 05/06/2002 11:48

Obviously you will need to wake her after 45 minutes of her first nap - IME I find that walking in the room, open the curtains... they wake if not I then leave the bedroom door open and make regular noise and then she wakes... No need for waking her up any more "violently" IYKWIM !

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