Sleep training when to go in to baby?

[Jemimapuddingduck]

I've just started sleep training with my 4 month old, I'm trying to do the pick up put down method but confused about when I should go in to her.

She's currently awake and talking grizzle shouting to herself, I went in 10 minutes ago when she first woke up and she was happy and smiling in her cot so not upset or really crying, I've come back out and can hear her doing the same.

Do u just leave her as she's happy, fed and clean nappy and just wants company or shall I go in to her and stay with her until she's asleep?

To the op
Do what's right for you and your baby.
I hope your okay :)

Rockingaround - the OP wrote about her PND and anxiety on this thread. My post was ENTIRELY in relation to this and relating it to the subject matter.

You may project because of your PND,, the OP isn't you. Neither is she my friend. The difference between you and I is that I dont dismiss your experience with an "O Jesus!". That is, frankly, rude and is not warranted or needed.

go an see your GP

I echo this. Talk to your doctor op.

Fate the OP gave no indication of feeling detached or less responsive; to them go on to suggest that her post drew any correlation to acting in the best interests of mother rather than baby ... IMHO was not in her best interests. Despite the OP having a great insight into her own feelings, she merely expressed that she feels anxious, which with PND or not, many new mothers feel any away.

However if you feel you were being helpful, empathetic and supportive then I'm sorry you felt I was being rude, I wonder if the OP agrees.

Btw, I didn't dismiss any of your experiences, only those of your friend who, if she was detached and unresponsive to her baby was obviously in desperate need of mental Heath intervention, which I sincerely hope she received. However it was unnecessary to cite her experience in response to the OP's post for advice on when to respond to her baby whilst she's drifting off to sleep. I also take umbridge to you accusing me of "projecting" (being dismissive). Part of supporting another is sharing your own experiences and in terms of mental health and being a mother I felt I could do that.

Ignore all the negative stuff on here. I have 3dc and each one totally different. Making sure your baby is happy and safe is the only thing that matters. From what I read of your op you sound like a switched on mum who is doing the best for her baby and if YOU are happy and comfortable standing outside the door whilst your baby is chatting away then that is the best thing to do. If her chatting changes and/or you want to go and check on her then that is also the right thing to do. Go with your gut feelings and I am certain it will all turn out for the best. You certainly sound like you are doing all the right things for you and your baby now💐

She did. In the middle of the peaks of my friends (exceptionally acute and over 20 years of) anxiety she will not appreciate anyone suggesting a problem. So I am not expecting the OP to necessarily be accepting. That does not make these things any less in need of saying.

I hope the OP can read the many qualifying points I made sure I stressed in my post (some, many, may, could be, not akways) that you clearly skimmed.

I won't apologise for pointing out how PND and anxiety affects a mothers view of her baby's sleep. It is a very regular point that often needs to be made on the Sleep board - a place I post daily.

I try to be gentle in the way I make the point. But i will not shy away from making it and being clear about it.

I don't mind you having a problem with that Rockingaround. Your opinions are not my business.

Sounds like you've done the right thing to me so I'd ignore the negative comments, as long as she wasn't properly crying of course you should let her learn to settle. And the person who said any noise from a baby under a year old needs attention, what nonsense! Babies start experimenting with their voice from a few months old and babbling at 6 months or so, it's the stepping stones for talking not needing attention, that's what they cry for.

My 8mo has been in her own room in the evenings from a similar age op as like yours once 4 month sleep regression hits they won't fall asleep in a light noisy room ime. We brought her into our room on her first wake up until she was 6mo or so. Now she stays in her own room all night. We always give her the chance to self settle when she wakes and at bedtime, how else will they learn. if she cries properly obviously we go to soothe her.

Thanks for all your advice, I'm just going to trust my instincts and keep a close eye on her as once she'd settled she slept really well.

I'm sorry if I maybe confused people with my OP and the title I don't know what I'm doing and what constitutes sleep training I'm working on the frankly crap conflicting and confusing information available in books and online.

With regards me bringing up my PND and anxiety some of the initial replies were a bit harsh with respect to what do I think I'm doing leaving a 4mo on their own etc. Which were not really helpful and I then got accused of rolling out the PND because I wasn't getting the responses I wanted which again was really harsh.

I am under my GP and also the mental health team and I think I have a good handle on it however I think some posters really should consider how they respond to OPs before they post by all means give your view but there's no need to criticise someone's judgement.

I believe what I'm doing is safe and best for my baby at the moment I just needed some clarification which I've got thank you.

It can therefore be a decision made with the best interests of the MOTHER at heart, not the best interests of the BABY.

And sometimes, that's ok. Mothers' needs are important too.

Four month sleep regression. Don't leave your baby by themselves while they are going through the biggest development change of their lives so far. They need you.