All gone tits up why won't 10month old now not sleep in cot!

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He's been poorly so up all night. He starts off in his cot for a few hours....then I've been doing the pupd....it's going on and on, the slight movement of me putting him bk in his cot eyes spring open and he Kicks Off! I'm back at work in 2 weeks and really panicking. It's not going to be good for either of us me holding him and sitting up sleeping all night! Last night he slept inbetween me and DP but only lo got some sleep. I'm starting to feel fed up, lo is showing his personality now and my god he wants everything his own way. It's the Moses basket situ all over again, would he he'll sleep anywhere other than my arms as a newborn for weeks. But he's been ok in his cot and own room for a few month now, so why this? Has he just got used to me holding him again while he's been poorly?

It's not unusual for a 10 month old to feel reassured by your presence and panicked if he thinks you are going to leave him. I'd bring the cot back into my bedroom, if it's not already there.

It's an interim to getting him used to sleeping in the cot, but with you there next to him.

Then I'd do all settling with baby in the cot. I'm not a fan of PUPD, it must be perpetually frustrating for the baby to feel comfy and secure in your arms, then be made to seperate over and over again.

In my view much better to gently teach him to feel comfy and secure in his cot to go to sleep.

Still stay with him, lie in your bed next to him. Lots of eye contact, care, compassion, shushing, patting.

Continually lie back down and dumny reinsert with every time he tries to get up. A firm hand on the chest helps with reassurance and also to keep baby still.

Then, over time, slowly and gradually reduce the level of reassurance he needs to be able to go to sleep in his cot.