Help- 13m old refusing to go to sleep

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WHY.
She used to be able to self settle but that stopped so now I bf her until she's drowsy. Last two nights this worked fine as normal but about half an hour later she's up crying, when we try to resettle her she wriggles when held but cries when we put her down. She also keeps chucking her comforter and dummy out of the cot. She's had calpol as she's got a cold. My dh is in there trying to soothe her back to sleep but it's not successful so far.

Still going

I want to watch strictly for gods sake!

Record it and stop stressing, they pick up on the anxiety, the toads and

I just don't know what to do to help her go to sleep!

Regarding chucking things. Firstly you could sew s ribbon into the sleeping bag with a press stud for the dummy. Then it can't be thrown.

The comforter, I'd just stay in the room and keep on soothing, reassuring and comforting and giving comforter back each time. If someone is in the room with her then throwing things out of the cot is irrevent anyway.

Is she learning to stand or walk? That can affect how easily baby settles.

I think they just go through phases of behaviours. Could this be her exerting her independence, or having become more interested in things and rebelling against bedtime? Add the cold in the mix and you may have a stressful few days. Mine has always been a sleep fighter. I find sometimes it becomes a bit of a battle and we'll just bring him downstairs for a bit longer so as not to engage in that particular battle along with all the other battles x

Different things work for different kids.... first make sure strictly is being recorded, deep breaths, relax.
One thing I used to do pre being able to reason with them was to be there in the room, but to start with sit by bed with one hand on back or chest. Low light, minimal talking or looking at them, just let them know you're there.

After a few minutes move a short distance away but close enough they can still detect your presence. Again minimal eye contact or speech. Meet any whining with shhh, bed time but try not to engage further.

Try and make your way out of the room slowly.

Obviously if really distressed you have to abandon it... but worth a try?

Thanks for replying, she's taken a few steps these past few days so that might have something to do with it, and I went back to work a couple of weeks ago AND she started nursery. Oh and she had her jabs on Tuesday!

I suppose we just have up rude it out. I tried bringing her downstairs last night but that just ended up delaying the battle.

Right, have bf/ cuddled her into drowsiness and now sitting and waiting to hear the telltale snore she has at the minute.

I did try to just pat/shh/stroke her but she just kept standing up