When should I sleep-train after a house move

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My DS has trouble going off to sleep on his own and I generally have to lie with him until he goes off and he usually stays in bed with us. Now, this is getting us both down because he is now totally resisting going to sleep and even when his eyes are almost closed he forces them open and starts singing and messing around. IT has got to the stage where it can take 1-2 hours of me in bed with him before he falls asleep. Sometimes I fall asleep sooner. We are moving into our new house soon and I think we should train him to sleep alone but I worry if it might be too much if at the same time as move or should I let him get used to the new house first. He is 21 months. Please help, I am normally calm andnice but the stress is turning me into a monster (house also stressful!!)

I really feel for you.I had alot of sleep problems when my 2nd dd was 21-24ms (waking thro' night-wits end thread). I'd say it depends on how you're going to do it and how long it is before you move. He may find it easier now in a familiar place, also you may be able to be firmer, as you won't be worried if he's upset 'cos the move has affected him. And if he's in a better routine when you move hopefuly it'll just continue.It also may not take as long as you think, my hv says it takes 2 nights to make a habit or 2 nights to break it. I'd say 3 myself but if you're consistent, which is the tricky bit, it shouldn't take too long. All the best, and I really mean that, I REALLY know how you feel.

Batey, thanks for that, we are not moving in yet, in fact within the next few days, up to us. I would try controlled crying when we move, the cot's already moved and he will have a single bed to himself. perhaps not a good idea, would I have to tie a rope to the door handle or something. I am a bit wimpy about imprisoning him in his room as this child gets his own way most of the time and the shock might be too much!! I would dearly love to get some sleep on my own.

Put a stairgate across the door to keep him safely in his room. We had one as a permanent fixture for a number of years through successive children

Should hace said door frame the frame adjusts to fit and has a gate in the middle.

Mears, what a simple and great idea. In fact I have just bought 2 of these for the first time as this is the first house, we've always been in a flat before. I really getting prepared, hope I don't chicken out. Being inexperienced with toddlers I'm afraid I let DS bully me all the time. Sweet as he is, feeding and sleeping (going off to sleep actually) are a real drag and I don't have the energy to be the boss.