Please tell me I'm not alone...

[QueenRefusenik]

... Listening to my baby scream next door with dp after spending an hour failing to feed him to sleep. I know I shouldn't even be doing that but I've had about 3 non-consecutive hours sleep in the last three days since we put him in his own room and I'm starting to lose the plot. He's 9.5 months and has decided the early hours are the right time to practice trying to crawl. Oh, God, someone tell me the dreaded 9 month sleep regression ends sometime because I can't take much more of this. I feel like such a bloody failure right now.

I've been up since 11 so got all of 1 hours sleep and doesn't look like I'll be getting any more.
To top it off I've come down with a horrible cold .
Hope all your nights have gone better

Oh Hubble I'm sorry, that all sounds impossibly difficult. We're here to hand hold if that helps.

I'm repeatedly told the movement/solid food thing will improve sleep. Who the fuck knows but my DD did start properly crawling today so here's hoping.

queen we did fortunately get the refund and drove home yesterday. A baby with d+v on a long car journey is pretty terrible but she's slept better since being home as she's so worn out.

I managed a couple of hours before she woke - have been awake since 2.30 because she's still unwell. She's just finally fallen asleep on my lap. Am about to pluck up the courage to move her!!

onestep I feel you - I have a stinking cold, looking after a tricky baby is hard at the best of times, but being ill makes it so muxh worse. I hope you get some rest very soon and feel better.

Hope everyone else is catching some zzzzzz

Totally sympathy here. Ds1 slept like a trooper - no skill or hard work on my part! Ds2 screamed and screamed night after night. I was so sleep deprived. I got my comeuppance!

I have a cold too! Horrid sore throat and general bleurgh feeling.

He was awake from 11-4 ...

Blimey, sounds like I actually had a better night in comparison! Astonishingly he did 10.30pm - 2.30am solid so I was much better able to cope with the 2.30-4.30am wide-awake stint. No yelling, just lots of chatting. Then he was awake again 5am and 6am, the cut-off point for being allowing into our bed (since really I should just get up with him then and start the day but am usually too shattered for!).

Sympathies for the colds, guys, the last one me and ds has together and four weeks of hell later i'm only just recovering from the resulting sinusitis and he has a hacking cough. Really tough to shift, even before sleep deprivation totals your immune system!

Bodybag - baby with d+v in car. Fuck. That. Shit. You're my new hero for coping!

Fingers crossed for some rest and at least partial recovery for all of us. Look after yourselves!

Anyone around? Another shitty night here. Managed about 2hrs kip 1-3am. Right now I'm downstairs in the furthest room crying and listening to him chatting away to dp. I don't know what to do. I can't carry on like this. What am I doing wrong? Every decision I make is the wrong one. Maybe if we'd FF from the start it would have helped? Not much point wondering about that now I guess. I know it sounds awful but right now I wish we'd never had him. I clearly can't provide whatever it is he needs. What on earth made me think I'd be a competent mother?

queen I'm here, holding your hand. Ds only woke twice last night but I'm grumpy af.
I've had many 'what have we done?!' moments. I've sat on my bed sobbing at 4am, phoned my mum at 5am begging her to have him (200 mile round trip just for 1 night) sobbed for 3 hours when she said no. It's horrible.
You are not doing anything wrong, ff makes no difference (ds ff from birth), ds only ever napped for 30 mins at a time and refused naps from 14 months. It's horrendous and they use sleep deprivation as a former of torture for very good reason!

Is there a chance that DP can take him for a couple of hours and let you catch up? It will make a massive difference to how you're feeling and to hell with 'plans'!

Thanks for the handhold Doofus. Feeling a bit better after a couple of gallons of coffee and some chocolate. DS is currently napping (attached to my boob, natch) so I'm going to do the same. It's incredibly comforting to know we're not alone.

I just don't know what to do, or even if there's anything I CAN do at this point other than ride it out. We need to try something but I'm too frazzled to develop a plan of attack, let alone actually carry it out. Anyone ever shelled out for a sleep consultant?