Not sure what to do any ideas?

[Katie74]

My little boy is 13mnths and has never been a great sleeper - generally wakes up a couple of times during the night although goes back to sleep quickly after being settled then generally wakes at 5-5.30am when he comes into our bed then will sleep happily until 6-6.30am. However in the last week he has got increasingly anxious about going to bed in his cot and has not settled well (previously he was great at settling to sleep when he first went to bed) He now will only appear to sleep on our bed on top of our duvet.

I know its been really hot but I have a fan in his room and the window open, I have tried replicating the 'feel' of sleeping on the duvet but am at my wits end as to how to get him to stay the night in the cot. My husband 's in the spare rrom and I'm not sleeping well with him next to me so its a bit of a mare

Any ideas?????

I guess you have to make a firm decision. You could just go for co-sleeping and probably both have a cosy happy good night's sleep. Or you may have to try something like cc to keep him in his bed at night. At the moment you're doing a bit of a mixture of both which IMO is usually a recipe for disaster sooner or later and seems to be coming a bit unstuck for you right now. As your ds gets older he'll become more adamant about getting what he wants / likes. So if he's a little one who likes to snuggle up with mom, then to go back into his cot alone just isn't going to compare. I think once you've decided which road you want to take (both have pros and cons) then you can make a better plan to deal with the problem before he gets any older and it gets 10 times harder!!!

strangerthanfiction we meet again!! I think your advice is spot on. Katie74 you sound to me like you have already decided that it is a problem for you all, and so the controlled crying could well be worth a try for a little behaviour modification!! Good luck and I hope the situation gets better for you.

We went through much the same. Sleeping getting worse, in with us some of the night etc, seeming to hate his cot but okay on our bed. So we moved him into his own bed, which has always been in his room (it used to be our guest bedroom).
We have never looked back. We moved him around 14 or 15 months, put a bed rail on. He's a very active sleeper and I think just outgrew the cot. He still wakes sometimes, but has never fallen out (I was concerned as he would stand up instantly he woke in his cot and start yelling.)
Good luck to you all.