Arrrhhhhhhhggggggg! Every hour really???

[MBlackham]

My 15 week old son will sleep 7-11 or 12pm but as soon as I go to bed (in the same room) around 10/11pm he wakes every 1-2 hours!!!!! I breastfeed him until he falls to sleep again and offer him both sides. I feed him plenty during the day also. I really can't take this much longer. HELP! 😭

Ds1 did it eventually but we had to wait until he was ready we tried every couple of months but just wouldn't take. When he was ready and we tried again it was a doddle. shrugs maybe if we'd persisted in the earlier months he'd have cracked it eventually but I preferred the night wakings to days and weeks of howling. With ds2 we can't do that as it'll disturb ds1 too much.

From 6 weeks until 15 weeks my youngest slept from 10-6. At 16 weeks he started waking every 30-45 minutes for the next 3 months. Putting him down sleepy but awake and getting a cot mobile that played rainforest sounds really helped, he went to 2-3 hourly. When I stopped breastfeeding at 7.5 months he started sleeping 7:30 - 6:30 each night

Why are you going to bed at 11? Go to bed at 8 and you'll get a decent lump of sleep!

Try feeding him about 4-5 feeds before bedtime. Alternating between each boob. Helped in my case and now sleep 7-5. Just to give up an hour or so before bed to do this!

I've tried repeatedly with my dd, I try at least a few times every month to see if she's ready, she's not. Although I'd never do cc or CIO so maybe that's my 'problem'

What I do know is that I have many friends who have mastered the 'sleepy but awake' thing but their babies still wake up in a similar pattern to my dd. Only difference is I can whack a boob in my dd's mouth and she's back to sleep quickly, while they're spending ages trying to get them back into a cot because of the method they're following. Ultimately the sleepy but awake thing is just a load of rubbish peddled by people who want you to buy their products. Babies will do it when they're ready.

I agree with elphaba. My boy eould not go to sleep without boob until about 6 months. Its quite a relief to see someone write it out like that. He is 13 months now and is finally able to sometimes be put in his cot to get himself to sleep. Sleepy but awake has occured about 5 times for us, ever. But he sometimes sleeps through now, and usually only has one night waking.
For the hourly wakings we co slept, it hurt my back and meant I went to bed with him at 7/8pm, but it gave me some rest

I feel your pain OP. DS3 is 5 months and wakes every 45 mins for 'feeding' (read: for the craic). He also goes from sleepy to defcon 1 should I try to put him down sleepy but awake. I've tried shh-pat for a few weeks to no avail. He just screams everytime I put him down, going on for hours. Its very distressing for us both. We co-sleep out of necessity. I'm so tired I think I'm going mental. I know he is overtired and I get that he's waking after every sleep cycle because he relies on boob to get off to sleep, but I don't know what on earth to do. Have 2 and 9 year olds as well, they're loving theur crazy exhausted mum at the minute!

I do think breast feeding is friend and foe at times. I felt that when he wouldn't sleep through the night it was because he could smell my milk and feel my movements in bed. It kept him in a light sleep but maybe that's s good thing as it probably lessened the risk of SIDS.

Now he is on the brink of sleeping through breast feeding is easier as I can just walk him into my room, feed and then walk him back to his own room still half asleep. Ewan the dream sheep has also been somewhat of a miracle but that could be coincidence.

I have friends who formula feed and have exactly the same issues