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Bedtime has gone all wrong...

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Daffodilly · 24/01/2007 09:17

DD is now 11 weeks old. From 2-10 weeks we followed a standard bath, massage, feed, bed routine at around 7-8PM. This worked well - about 70% of the time, occasionally she went straight down and often she needed rocking/sshhhing to sleep. I realise this was pretty good going for a small baby.

In the last week however she has suddenly flatly refused to go down at this time. She will scream when set down and stop instantly on picking up. No amount of patting/rocking/ssshhing will work (we tried for 2+ hours one night). In the end we give up and bring her down with us, where she is alert and mostly content to sit in her chair (so doesn?t need to be held) and just gets grizzly later on in the evening. I?ve given her another feed at 10PM and she?s gone down OK (though at this point she has pretty much been put down asleep as she is so exhausted she falls asleep on the breast). She then sleeps well in the night.

I guess what I am wondering is any ideas about why the sudden change? We haven?t changed the routine and she still goes down OK on her own for naps and later at night (thankfully). I just can?t figure it out. I?ve tried both more and less daytime sleep but it doesn?t make a difference. I?m convinced she is tired as she?ll have been up anything from 2-5 hours before bedtime.

I?m sure the goalposts will all move again in another week or two and I don?t really mind just going with the current pattern. It means DH and I don?t get an evening together, but do get more sleep in the night so I can?t really complain. But if we do this should we continue the ?bedtime? routine or not? Will she just make all the wrong associations with it?

Would appreciate any ideas.

Daff

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caygill132 · 24/01/2007 09:24

My dd did the same thing at 11/12 wks, lasted about a week & then went back to normal. don't know why?? Just go with what she wants to do...

Daffodilly · 24/01/2007 15:36

Thanks Caygill - it is good to know we aren't the only ones. I guess they just like to keep us on our toes!

It isn't really a problem - I am just not sure if I should keep doing her bedtime routine and the usual time, move it to later or drop it for now!

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Plibble · 24/01/2007 15:50

If she's alert and doesn't seem tired then maybe she isn't. Sounds to me like the only thing that has changed is your daughter - she is growing up and may just not need as much sleep anymore. When mine did this I cut way back on daytime naps (and decided she should get all of her sleep before 3pm). After that, no more problems.

lorie · 24/01/2007 17:18

Daff, I can't believe it I was just about to ask pretty much the same qustion as you!

Let me tell you about my boy..he's only 5 wks old and is brilliant during what I call night time ( say 11pm-6am) he will usually wake 3am for feed and then again at 5/6/7am and will settle to sleep quickly. BUT he just wont seem to settle before 10pm!?
We were trying to put him to bed around 7/8pm after bath, feed, quiet time etc but we were constantly back and forth to feed hin or sooth him. So we decided just to keep him downstairs with us till 10 ish when we take him upstairs feed him in quiet room and then he will sleep! like you we have no evenings- what could we be doing wrong if anything? Any advice appreciated. I know he is only young but don't want to be doing the wrong thing and making future problems. xx

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