Where does your baby sleep in the evening?

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I'm curious. The older DC slept in their rooms with a baby monitor, but the guidelines now state they should sleep in the same room as you for six months

Dbaby currently sleeps, (or fusses) in the sitting room, but it's not dark,and whilst there are no wild parties we watch television or chat, hardly the quietened voices and darkened rooms recommended.

What do others do?

"Wasn't safe upstairs" - dramatic much?

My DD went upstairs to sleep at night from about 2 weeks. Trying to keep her downstairs with us just made her cry and cry, nothing we did would settle her. She was made worse by cuddling and hated the Moses basket.

In despair one evening I took her to our room, lay her on the bed and lay next to her so she could see me/know I was there but I wasn't mithering her. She settled and slept.

From that day on she went to bed at 6pm in the cot in our room. I wenr with her and slept (it was a great way to catch up on lost sleep and recover from gruelling child birth!) we bought a sensor mat and after a few weeks popped her down at bed time and left her.

She went into her own room at 2 months as we were disturbing her and was very settled.

Fwiw she is 3.4 now and a very independent child, always has been. She's cuddly, but very much on her terms, always has been.

DS went into his own room at 5 days. He settled so much better when he didn't have our general noise going on in the background. The thought of settling him in the living room in the evening honestly never crossed our minds. He would sometimes sleep in a moses basket in the living room during the day, but more often than not he was upstairs and I always had a monitor with me. However I did lie to our health visitor and said he slept in our room because she was very judgmental and scare mongery!

Nap - it's isn't dramatic. Babies sleeping alone even for 5 mins is not recommended under 6 months due to safe sleeping recommendations. It's hardly helpful mocking someone who is rightly following the advice

I know of two babies who died of sids. Both died between 7-10pm when put upstairs alone. The advice is there for a reason. You can choose to ignore, but please don't advice others to do the same

art what exactly are you meant to do when they won't sleep downstairs as your presence and the light and noise overstimulates them?

I check on DS more when he's asleep in our room in the evening than I do when I'm also asleep in there at night.

The risk of sids, as absolutely awful as it is, is low. Especially if you are following the vast majority of correct advice. The most important ones are baby on back to sleep, and no smoking. Yes being in the same room for sleeps is important but if you are checking on the baby every 15 mins or so (as I do) or you have a monitor, I really don't think that is increasing the risk.

I also don't know of a single person who leaves their very young baby upstairs alone all evening and never checks on them.

I'm interested in this too. DS is 9 weeks and naps during the day either in a Toddle Pod in the living room or on me (not too keen on the car or the pushchair for sleeping!). In the evenings he's very hard to settle as he wants to be in the dark and quiet so he sometimes screams until I take him upstairs to his cot in our room but this isn't compatible with the rest of my life (I also have older children). I've just ordered a baby monitor with a movement sensor that goes under the baby and we're also going to get a wifi camera so I can leave him but also keep an eye on him. I can't sit upstairs from 8 every evening!

Safe Sleeping Guideline. Not law. Not rules. Guidelines.

Ours slept in the Moses basket in the living room, then we took her up to bed with us (we were lucky that she as quite happy to be moved around in her sleep!).

Guildlines yes. It's not against law to smoke in children's faces or give them haribo for three meals every day, people wouldn't do that either though would they

If child really won't sleep downstairs then a parent I assume needs to stay with them upstairs. I don't understand how it's only English children who somehow can't ' sleep in noise downstairs'. Most the world only has one room and they all sleep fine

My DD 5.5months, goes up to bed in her own room at 8.30pm and has been doing this since 4months. They're guidelines it's not a set in stone rule.

Well mine doesn't, art. You're more than welcome to come and see for yourself.

Anyway it's bollocks it's only English babies. I grew up in a Chilean family and all babies are put in a dark room to sleep.

My DD slept on me/DH/floor/carrycot in the early evenings until she was 6-7 months or so. We were lucky that she slept anywhere though.

As you can see from this thread most people don't follow this guideline - that's a parenting decision that only you can make. We did.

DS would happily sleep on and off in our arms, waking up and playing for a bit before nodding off again and eventually being transferred to bed in our room when we went up. He was a terrible sleeper until over a year.

DD is a much better sleeper, when it's night she doesn't want to be held, once she's decided she is tired she wants to go to bed and that's that. Luckily she's on the small side and still (at 6.5 months) fits her Moses basket easily, we simply put it into a corner of the living room, shading it from light as much as possible. Lowered voices for 5/10 mins whilst she settles and that's that. She's big enough to go upstairs now but we're all happy with our routine - we carry the basket up when we go up or pick her up gently and pop her into the co-sleeper, whatever seems easiest on the day. She sleeps through the transfer and through till morning...

I think the school of thought behind babies under 6 months not being left alone to sleep, isn't that you need to be near them or keep checking in on them to see if they're breathing. It's actually so that THEY can hear YOU and as a result regulate their own breathing in time with yours, which in turn can potentially reduce SIDS.

Again, it is just guidelines so no one is saying you have to follow the guidelines. I agree the risk of SIDS is very, very low but as a very anxious ftm I followed the guidelines to the letter and I'm now stuck with a 10 month old dd who won't go up to bed in the evenings as she settles better downstairs with us. Argh

Both mine were put in crib in our bedroom every night from day one... we would be in the living room with baby monitor.

DS is 3 months and sleeps (or doesn't) in my arms or in his snuzpod (the top detaches) in the sitting room. He used to also sleep in the carrycot but he's outgrown it and I'm not sure about letting him sleep too often in the pushchair as its not perfectly flat.

We turn the big light off and lower the volume on the tv he sleeps fine.

(It's such a pain I can no longer wheel him about the flat in the carrycot for daytime naps)

Watching with interest.

My DS (3months) has gone to sleep for a longer stretch from around 6 weeks, usually between 9 and 10pm. Usually we just put him in his buggy and carried him through to our room. I've recently started a routine of bath at around 8.30/8.45pm, sit quietly with us until showing sleep signs, then our room, low light, boob, book and into bed.

I now feel I have a dilemma of whether to rock him to sleep, which is so lovely, or leave him for the 15mins or so it takes him to go off alone (he doesn't cry, just fidgets) and I watch him where he can't see me. which he does. I feel guilty doing that though for some reason!