What time should bedtime be?

[Sparrowlegs248]

For a nearly one year old? Should I be flexible? I'm knackered, early pregnancy, he's not sleeping til 8.30 on average, awake before 6, not sleeping through.

I know, I may have sworn......

9-7 is better isn't it? We were up at 5.15. So same amount of time as you but a couple of hours earlier. When I say up, I mean awake......

Early naps again today.

How was last night notta?

9-7 was definitely better but we were back to 11-9 last night. He was too late for baby group. I know I should wake him but he's so grumpy if I do. He obviously needs 10 hours a night, ideally I'd like him to 8-6. I'm doing a week at work next week so I'm planning on waking him at 6 and see how we do...

Asleep by 7 again, got him down easily. Still feeding to sleep though. Restless and feeding from before 5 but on and off with sleeping til 6.30! I've been at work and he's been with Mil so will find out how his naps went in a bit, hopefully she managed to get them early for me.

How old is he coconut? 11-9 I'm in bed by 9 at the latest at the minute so would really struggle with that!

Yay for the easy bed time
He's almost 11 months now... I still feed to sleep too, and normally just go to bed when he does. I found he does reliably have 10 hours but the time he goes down is so variable... his naps have no set time. I really need to make an effort to get him up earlier and get the naps earlier!
I'm hoping when I go back to work we will get in more of a routine.

Have you considered taking him out of the cot?
Get a Regualr single mattress and put on the floor. Then you can lie next to him to settle to sleep, he's already on mattress. So no having to lift and move into cot etc. If he wakes at 5am you can do the same and try to resettle in his bed and both can fall asleep together if needed. Saves all the lifting in and out when pregnant also

His room is currently given over to my Husbands mountains of crap, so not really an option. I bring him in with me when he wakes after I'm asleep so he's laying next to me anyway, and I can doze.

I'm thinking of some sort of gradual retreat when I have a couple of weeks off, but need his bedtime to be reliable first really. I've just got in and he's had a big feed as it's the first one all day but he's not quite ready for sleep. I'm shattered though so hopefully not too long.

Coconut I imagine if you bit the bullet and got him up early, the rest would fall into place. The naps would be earlier and hopefully so would bedtime!

I know you're right, asleep at 9 today so maybe I'll do 645 tomorrow and work to earlier... It's just so hard when he's sleeping
Hope bedtime was an easy/early one!

You sound shattered nottalotta :( I would also think about that one nap, try it out, see if it makes a difference, going through this confusion right now with my DS) and for those four days you are with him try and just bf/ settle him in his cot anyway you can until he is used to it again.. I think in general he will be more likely to take a longer and less disturbed nap once you get him back to cot sleeping again. Sleep training for just one nap and BT will be easier than doing it for two naps, so just think about that later I say.

One line of thought says that EWs can stop for some babies once they are on one nap. Here's hoping for the both of us. Mine wakes up when your does x

Ps congratulations on your pregnancy x x x

DH will have to step up. Mine is useless too x x x

Thanks fifi. Husband is more likely to ship out I think. Would make my life easier really.

I have managed a couple of cot naps, but they have been when I feed to sleep then transfer him. They were a bit longer. He's up so early it's hard to get him to stretch out to midday for a longer nap.

Will see how it goes. Hoping to stop feeding and start a gradual retreat type thing in August for bedtime.