Anyone else got an amazing non-sleeping baby?!

[cruisemum1]

Anyone? btw ds 19 weeks.

Sending sleep vibes to you all & wishing some for my DS too.

I'm clinging to what fillyjonk & hunker have said and am hoping that by the 18/19 month stage DS will have settled and will sleep for a good 5 hours(I have said this at 6, 9, 12 and 15 months too, so don't hold much hope...)

But I do agree, I think some babies just don't sleep

cruisemum my dd did same - waking every 2 hours still at 5 mths so i was feeding her 10.30, 1am, 3am, 5am, 7am. once i worked out she was using me as a dummy and didn't need all those feeds i had to do a bit of persuasion at 1 and 5 to stop her waking. Also tried ncss and got fed up dicking around so did a version of it which definitely DID involve some crying!!!!! but we never left her for more than a few minutes without going in and rubbing her tummy or stroking her hand but definitely no picking up or feeding or talking. Took 2 - 3 nights with her and she never got tooooo peed off just grizzled on and off then stopped waking at 1 and 5. Weaning HAS worked for us - started solids 3 weeks ago and since then she has stopped waking at 3 and sleeps from 7.30pm to 6 or 6.30am most nights although does sometimes still wake at 3 but i don't feed her now as i don't think she needs food it's just habit. I do think you are right about getting out of the habit - we had a v. unsettled couple of weeks over Xmas with dd who was teething and so i was picking her up and taking her to bed with me and feeding her in the night - am such a soft touch! - and once that was over took us a couple of nights to get her settled again. hope you have a better night tonight!!!!

Both my dds started to sleep through when I stopped bf at around 8 months. Definitely just coincidence.
DS is still bf at 11 months {proud smile} and wakes regularly, feeds once or twice in the night, but doesn't go back to sleep. When I could just attach him and go back to sleep I didn't mind so much, but now he thinks he needs to get up for 2 hours

He's not well at the moment, so I'm waiting to see if things settle when he is better before I decide to try and do anything about it.

sar - that sounds like what i'll end up doing if ds continues like this. i am just a walking, talking dummy. i will stop bf over the nxt 6 weeks anyway so he won't have a choice but it does make me sad .
btw - last nite was a bit better.
6:15pm - asleep
10.15 bf
1.10 bf
4.00 bf
7 awake

he defo doesn't need the 1 and 4 feeds.
worried abt this waking dd up tho. she has to go to school.

hello?

well am not an expert and only have the one dd but i reckon many babies at 19 weeks probably do still need a middle of the night feed if they are exclusively breast fed and some may need it for much longer?? i suppose it all depends on their size, appetite during the day etc. i guess the trick is to be able to tell the difference b/w when they are comfort sucking and when they are genuinely hungry. And i don't know whether all babies automatically stop waking up just cos they are no longer hungry - my dd def. needed some gentle encouragement to get out of the habit. Just like i do - am still waking up in the night even though she doesn't 'cos I've been doing it for six months!!!!! But solids and formula i've been told take longer to digest so fills them up more so if it's hunger with your ds maybe stopping bf will help?

last nite horrendous. every 1-2 hrs

Yes over here!
Really don't know what to do - 8 month old ebm, breast and formula fed, has solids at meal times but still doesn't know the meaning of a good night's sleep. He is a very light sleeper and wakes every 1-2hrs. Last night was worst as he just wouldn't let me put him down. Like I say, don't know what to do now because I need to get up to go to work everymorning

sar - i have no objection to middle of nigh feet. but every 1 - 2 hrs???! He doesnt want food, just a comfort suck ad I put him back in his cot as soon as he has started to doze. Dunno what to do. Persevere? Take a harder approach? Ride it out? Desperate times call for desperate measures

they definitely do and they definitely did for me when dd was doing same. Maybe we were lucky but she stopped waking every 2 hours after a couple of nights - i personally couldn't have left her to scream hysterically for hours. Me and dp agreed that if she got really upset and we thought she was truly hungry or desperate we would pick her up but we never got to that point. my advice - if you don't want him waking up like this in the night still when he's 6, 7, 8 months i would do something about it now if you can face it and if it won't disturb your dd too much? i was lucky to get same advice from my health visitor which is why i decided to do something. Main thing for me was to decide how to deal with it and then be consistent.

sar - what did you do? what did you hv suggest? how did it go?

just a hug from me and much empathy

popsycal - thankyou. You are obviously lovely!

I am

lol
and have a nearly 2 year old who wakes up as often as your babies do
so I understand the sleep deprivation and 'at-the-end-of-your-tether-ness'

kama - thursday night is The Night
honest it is
oh yes

popsycal - you gonna do cc? Eeek! Get your earplugs ready if you are.....!

oh yes
but a wuss version

have tried EVERYTHING else and really don;t agree with the whole thing
but he is 2 in 5 weeks and I have officially had enough

popsycal - my plan is to have this wrapped up by the time ds is 6 mths. If things hav not improved by then, I want dd to stay and nanny and grandad's by the seaside and things are gonna be fixed. As I said, that's the plan anyway..............

sounds familair
good luck
if you need sympathy/moral supprt, just shout

hello. All we did was when she woke up unless it was tiime for a feed we went in and soothed her without picking up or talking (eg rubbed tummy or hand) for 30 seconds or so then left rooom for 2 mins and after 2 mins went back in. Kept doing that until she went back to sleep. Only took a couple of nights with our dd, but i think all babies respond differently. Eg ncss was crap for us but this worked really well! She did and still does sometimes wake up and this is stil what we do but we leave longer gaps these days eg 5 mins or if she's not really pissed off just grizzling on and off we may leave for 10 or even more. Just depends what we think is right at the time. Health visitor is all for the tough love approach (don't think she has any dc's!) - if i ever moaned about her frequent wakings / feedings she just told me to do something about it eg "don't come back to me when she's 8 months and tell me you're still feeding her 3 times a night"....she is v. nice though! Does that help at all???? Not trying to suggest that this is the answer for everyone. I know what it's like to think just a quick feed then we'll all be asleep again.

sar - ws there a lot of crying? my ds is a determined little bugger and cries VERY loud.

btw - I have read NCSS and some of it seems to make such good sense. the pull of thing is crap though!