Why won't the dream feed work!?!!

[KLG3101]

Feeling deflated, shattered and frustrated...

Our DD still wakes twice during the night after a dream feed at 1030pm. What am I doing wrong?

Bedtime routine just now is

615pm bath
645pm feed in nursery dim lights
7pm sleep - sleeps until I dream feed at 1030pm or if I leave her she will
Sleep until 12am/1am
1am wake
4am / 5am wake
7am wake

Oh, it's so sad, the way women beat themselves up with these unrealistic expectations, and spend stressful hours trying to make something happen that will happen in time anyway. And the way other mothers lie!!

We too put DD to sleep around 11pm and she slept until 11am with feed wake up at 5am & 9am. That way I got a big chunk of sleep from 11 to 5 with her and again went to sleep until 9am myself. I am a really bad moody person on broken sleep so DH just urged me to sleep whenever I could get some. I was a bit worried about how we'd switch her to 7pm sleep but at around 8 months we made a gradual switch over a week and she did fine. However she remained a poor sleeper until 15 months and even now at 18 months wakes a couple of times, but sleeps of in a few minutes so I am surviving!

I would have liked to have kept mine up later for the long stretch to be later but by 4 months they both zonked out at 7ish wherever they were sleeping and didn't wake again for 6-8 hours!
Anyway Op, try keeping her up later and see if it works otherwise remember your baby is behaving normally for such a tiny

I find what you're saying really interesting Artistic. I hadn't thought of it that way. My baby would sleep 7-4 at that age and I used to wish she would do the long stretch later. I never thought of keeping her up later because the baby books tell you they should be asleep at 7ish. What you say makes so much sense!

Pink, with DD1, I did everything by the book (struggled to really) and i wouldn't say it was all success & no problems. With DD2 I am going purely based on what works. Never co- slept with DD1, but now with DD2 I have no choice, but am loving it really and will be sad when she moves to her sisters room. If you want to consider a late sleep time for yours, just be assured that you will be able to move it to 7pm at a later point in time (1 hour a day). Whilst this late sleeping saved my sanity by giving me those much needed 5-6 hours, it also drove us all a bit mad as a family to not have any down-time from DD2 in the evenings. She was pretty much with us awake all evening, during dinner and post dinner catch up, which did cause chaos with the feeding, crying, nappies etc. I was glad when we moved to the 7pm routine but by then she was sleeping until 4-5am anyways. So it was a short term arrangement that worked for us. Think about all aspects if you choose to switch. At this age babies are not too difficult to switch routines one way or the other, they just adapt. Good luck!