Ds is 11 months. He's always been a crap sleeper. Is ff from birth due to initial complications. Has been waking for milk once a night around 1-3am for a while but the last two nights has demanded milk twice (absolutely nothing else would settle him). He's on 3 meals, 1 snack and 3 bottles of milk during the day. Surely he doesn't need milk at night too?! I keep waiting for him to drop the night feed but as the opposite is happening I'm starting to feel I need to do something to wean him?
By some miracle he self settles at night (but only if he practically falls asleep on his after-bath bottle). I put him down very sleepy but awake and he does drift off by himself. He won't self settle if he wakes in the night though. He needs holding and walking around with for 20 minutes or more. Or he needs milk. He wakes about 1-5 times a night.
He wakes for the day around 5.30-6am. Goes to sleep at 6.30-7pm. He has 2 naps in the day, but there's absolutely nothing I've found in 11months of trying that will get him to sleep for these other than me or dh holding him and walking around for 20 mins or so. And he weighs 11kg nearly. It hurts!
He hates being in bed with us, so co-sleeping has never been an option. He basically hates anything where he is awake but not moving. Self-settling for daytime naps has always seemed like a laughable dream!! There's absolutely nothing about me being by his cot patting/shushing that is remotely soothing to him. He will just cry and cry.
But I can't go on carrying him around to sleep. He weighs a bloody tonne, and he's horribly wriggly until he does actually fall asleep.
And his naps are only 20-40 mins ... Basically he gets max 60-90mins sleep in the day and 9-10 at night, given he wakes up 1-5 times.
Sorry this is very long and disjointed. I just feel like something needs to change but no idea what. I don't want to leave him to cry.