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Can anyone explain the Tracey Hogg pickup/putdown method to me?

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Moomin · 06/01/2007 17:48

Anyone? X

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shazronnie · 06/01/2007 17:57

I think you pickup baby and pat on back etc (no talking) then put back as soon as settled. Repeat until baby stays settled. I think emphasis is on repetition and consistency. It is supposed to be less distressing than controlled crying.

I've never tried it though!

twickersmum · 06/01/2007 18:07

lots of shush shush shush shush,
pat back in rhythmic consistent manner, (stroking hair works for mine too)
the minute they calm down you leave - they have to settle by themselves.
say "sleepy time"
key is consistent messages/cues.

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Moomin · 06/01/2007 20:16

Ta very much. Yes sounds less of a trauma than cc which was awful last night. Will give this a go tonight.

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Seona1973 · 06/01/2007 20:21

check out the boards on the babywhisperer website , they have lots of info too

becksmummy · 07/01/2007 11:06

Moomin how did pick up put down work last night? I have been wanting to try this with my dd but wasnt sure if it worked??

LittleSarah · 07/01/2007 11:35

This worked well for me, takes a while and is frustrating... that, is she asleep??? WAAAAHHH! But that is always going to happen when trying to get wee ones to sleep.

Moomin · 07/01/2007 18:46

Tbh I was rubbish last night, I'm just so tired and finding it really hard to function when she wakes up and drags me from my coma. I'd taken her 'morning' bottle to bed with me in the hope I'd get her through the night with pu/pd and be able to finally give it to her if she woke anytime after 6 and then doze again.

But last night she woke at 2 (what's all that about??!) and after a few goes at shush and pat and as I was considering a pick-up, I felt her tummy and it was rumbling away so she was obviously hungry and I thought that no amount of pu-pd would work if this was the case. I read a lot of the stuff on the link to the BW site posted below and it says if they are hungry you just have to feed them but then make sure their calorie intake is increased the next day. So I gave her the milk and then she work again at 4ish (habit this time I think) and she went off again after a bit of comfort BUT this included the remnants of her bottle (only a tiny bit) but it was using the bottle and teat as a prop which I know is a real no-no. I was just so knackered though - please don't shout at me!!

Anyway, she's had lots to eat today and I'm off to give her some cereal now if she'll have it and her night-time bottle, and we'll try again tonight Watch this space...

(On the other hand, dh and dd1 slept really well up in the attic room away from the crying - dd1 slept so well in fact that she wet the bed!!!! Dh NOT happy this morning! Oh well!)

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becksmummy · 08/01/2007 11:09

Sorry to hear you had such a bad night, I hope last night went better for you?

Keep me posted on how you get on as I am thinking of starting with pick up put down but thought had better wait until next weekend so dh isnt kept awake all night (hopefully wont be but dd is very strong willed and dont think she will like the change) and then has to go to work!

cruisemum1 · 08/01/2007 11:32

i tried pu/pd and it was soooo stressful that I am not doing it ever again! poor lo cried/screamed/got hysterical and soooo upset. Maybe mine is too young (4mths) but it was awful - just awful. Am trying NCSS which is more baby/mummy friendly but much slower. Good luck though

cruisemum1 · 08/01/2007 11:33

how old is your lo?

becksmummy · 08/01/2007 11:53

My lo is nearly 7 months, she isnt bad at going to sleep but I have to get her to sleep in my arms and them put her in her cot and I have heard from people with older children that I need to teach my dd to settle herself otherwise it will just get harder as she gets older!

I have read both books bw and ncss and couldnt decide which to follow, like you say I thought if ncss takes a long time would I keep it going which is why I thought to try bw (although now i;m not sure!)

Is ncss working for you??

cruisemum1 · 08/01/2007 12:08

have only just started tbh but anything is better than what I went through trying bw! So much crying it broke my heart.
It is true that the longer you leave it hte harder it gets but as mine is only 17 weeks I wanted to start it now as he is sooo dependent on being bf/driven/pushed to sleep that he is only gonna get more dependent and I don't want to bf beyond 6mths or have to go out every time he needs a nap! Good luck with what you do. Iam sure it depends on the child and their disposition/adaptability.

cruisemum1 · 08/01/2007 12:11

btw - my lo is extremely strong willed already. maybe that is why it did not work for him

becksmummy · 08/01/2007 12:29

From what you have said I doubt it will work for my dd as i'm sure she will have a lot more willpower to stick it out than I will at trying to change her ways, I am now swaying towards ncss!

Think had better get the book back out as if its going to take a while had better get started soon!!

Keep me posted as to how you get on with ncss, I am interested to find out what bits work as there are so many differnt things to try with this one!

Moomin · 08/01/2007 22:41

Very quick post - i must go to bed. Well, miracles do happen and she slept from 7pm til 7.45am and I had to go and wake her up this morning !!!!! I am sure this is only due to her being a little piglet on Sunday and eating loads for a change and I am certainly not holding my breath tonight... but I have been giving her snacks between meals today in the hope they will help fill her little tummy

We will give her water if she cries tonight and try for a bit of pu/pd but both dh and I have work tomorrow and dd1 has school so it will be the method that creates the least amount of resistance that wins tonight I'm afraid! Here's hoping.... will keep you posted. Good luck everyone else hoping for a quiet night.

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