please help

[bunny85]

Hello

I'm so shattered I can barely type. I really need help and advice. My ds is 1 month old and he is not sleeping. We've had nights with 3h of broken sleep altogether and nights with no sleep at all. He hardly sleeps during the day. We go to bed quite late (11-12pm), maybe that's why? He is my first I don't know what to do I'm so exhausted. I haven't slept for 2 nights in a row now. He's been crying, squirming, grunting, screaming all night long. I'm trying infacol now but not sure if it's helping yet. He's ebf. Please help me I'm so so tired. I read on here how other mums sleep at least 4-5h a night and I'd give anything for that. Why is he like that???

Thank you all.

Jemzy, sorry I posted too soon without actually having a look at the link! Lots to think about. It certainly sounds right in so many aspects. Except for the night sleep - there it says baby would go for long periods of sleep without feedings at night and therefore feel better at morning. Whereas evening/nighttime is our fussiest time with hardly any sleep. To be fair though, last night he did sleep for a long time but that was when he was on his tummy on my chest I'll certainly let him sleep now during day time and I don't care if it's in my arms on my chest, maybe it will restore the sleep balance as they say... I'm just so at loss what to do and so puzzled..

Yep mine the same putting on weight, eats well and will sleep in our arms or on us. Lots of soiled and wet nappies too. I think he maybe overtired. Our son was hysterical from 4.30pm till about 10.30pm at night for weeks and was moving head side to side with scared face and looking in pain hence several trips to doctors and grumpy all day but won't go in crib or stay there for long. We just kept getting him to sleep to catch him up, at first on us and cuddling him on our bed swaddled with white noise and then transfer him to the crib, still doing same but now sitting on sofa, getting him to sleep then put in sleep bag instead of swaddled then transferred to crib with white noise going, he went off alot easier each time as we were getting him to sleep before he got overtired and haven't seen the frightened face since. He still does the head side to side occasionally but that is because we have missed his tired cues which I must add were not obvious in the early weeks. We had a few weeks of him sleeping 5pm-4.30am then a feed them back for another 2-3 hours then this week we had 7pm-6.30am one night but we have just had two nights of unsettled baby waking up every two hours. My eyes are stinging. Not sure why he has suddenly changed as nighttime sleep became a sure thing. My biggest struggle apart from no decent sleep for two days is daytime naps, he sleeps for only 30-45 mins people say this is normal for an 11 week old but not sure if it is or not

Our worst times was early evening through till 10.30pm up until 6-8 weeks old, which the doctors kept saying was colic and he would grow out of it by 3 months which was no comfort to us and we had tried everything to help with colic but he was the same. So we took him off infacol etc as it wasn't helping and we saw no improvements and he burped better without it. Apart from the past two nights he has been fantastic at night.

Just to clarify not 30-45 all day, just each time he sleeps but not usually longer and if it is a longer sleep it's usually on me or in the car seat in the car or the pram if we are out and about

My baby didn't settle until 12-1am at first and some nights I was going to bed at 9. Very frustrating. He's nearly 6 weeks old now and I've noticed him getting dozy earlier (hooray! Although not tonight). He's quite windy and gripes about a bit at night. He also hated the Moses basket. I'm using infacol and a sleepyhead pillow in the bed next to me (husband relegated to spare room). The sleepyhead was a revelation. I normally feed baby about now and then head to spare room and husband bounces baby to sleep on the birth ball and does the first shift with him. Then when baby wakes to feed in the night we deal over - I feed then settle in our room (which takes up to 90 minutes) and husband sleeps the last shift in the spare room. Our toddler goes into him whatever ungodly hour he wakes up (usually around 6). This routine means we both get 5-6 hours broken sleep midst of the time and around 4 on a really bad night. Hope that helps a bit. Remember, they change all the time xx

Ps my baby is also quite difficult to burp and has explosive poos. The infacol helps a bit. I also lie him on his side sometimes as he likes it more than on his back. Once he's dozy I can sometimes get him to sleep by stroking his forehead and eyebrows, unless he's very grouchy. Then I just resort to him sleeping on my chest although then I don't get a proper sleep.