8 week old.. Own room?

[alien11]

Dd is nearly 8 weeks old. After washing the sides of the bednest she was in next to my bed I put her in her cot in her room as the sides take days to dry!
Anyway, I put down a duvet on the floor for me and she slept like a log!! Waking for her usual feeds but much less noise/grunting and she was fully stretched out... Now of course we have the issue of cot/own room/sids risk etc.

I'm at my wits end making a decision about what to do.. Her room is right next door to ours. If we moved a lot of stuff around we could fit her cot in our room but it would be further away from me than being in her own room.

I've been sleeping next to her cot on the floor for about a week now, I've currently got a cough so been disturbing her with that :-(
She's a very healthy 13lb 8oz and putting weight on very well (98th percentile!) which also means she barely fits in the bednest anyway as extremely long.

So
Basically what I'm asking is what would you do?

And the risk of SIDS with co-sleeping done to the guidelines is the lowest of all. If you don't follow the guidelines then the risk is the highest. The statistics are skewed to look like its the riskiest option as it doesn't split the numbers of fatalities into those who follow guidelines and those that fall asleep on a squidgy sofa with their child following exhaustion or a drink or three, for example.

I don't understand how sleeping in the same room is supposed to help with SIDS. How do you expect to know when baby stops breathing in the night? Even if you do, what do you think you will able to do about it? [puzzled]

It's them hearing you that's important, not you hearing them. They don't fully understand the mechanism but have found that sids decreases when the baby is in the same room

My dd went into her own room (next to mine) at 12 weeks because she outgrew the Moses basket. In your situation id put her in her own room.

DD went into her own room at 3 months, when she was securely sleeping a decent stretch at night. I followed a load of links from here, so I couldn't in a million years tell you where I found it, but I found some research that said the risk of sleeping alone is about equivalent to the risk of formula feeding, so very, very small.

All the risks are pretty small.

The issue I have is that if I knew a risk and overruled it I wouldn't forgive myself.

Having said that I co slept from both with my premature baby who is on the 91st centile for weight - as although the gestation is in the risky category I think the weight outweighs it. He is 6 weeks now and I feel we are past the specific risk now.

SIDS risk is not about you knowing when they stop breathing, but it is believed that being in the same room and hearing you will help to regulate their breating, and therefore avoid that they stop breating in the first place.

That's interesting poocatcherchampion as no.2 is on the 98th percentile for everything! She's comfortably in 3-6 month clothing and last weigh in was 13lb 7oz..

We ve decided to try to move cot into our room tonight, Dh will play it by ear and sleep wherever. Dd slept 830-0400 last night without a feed !! Sods laws it was an evening I decided to spend with Dh rather than head to my makeshift bed. Oh well, not holding out much hope it'll happen again ( she was awake 99% of yday so must have been shattered!) but good to know she can do it! Making up for it today by sleeping a lot

"it is believed that being in the same room and hearing you will help to regulate their breating"

No, it is not. That might be the "belief" in some mummy websites but scientific research points at genetic causes. And of course there isn't such thing as people unconsciously regulating breathing patterns in line with multiple others in the same room, especially during sleep.

I definitely think if she's happy in her cot you need to capitalise on that. I moved DS into a cot at around 6-8 weeks because he outgrew the Moses basket (also 98th!) but it was a struggle. I kept him in our room until he was 4 months, but moved him early because we were clearly disturbing him from sleeping well.
I can hear him without a monitor, though I kept it on in the early days for peace of mind.

No, it is not. That might be the "belief" in some mummy websites but scientific research points at genetic causes

I thought reserach at the moment pointed at combination of causes - infant, their age and outside risk factors. And scientific studies have shown that babies sleeping in a separate room have higher SIDS risk.

Genetic causes of SIDS.

Also, Brainstem abnormalities that involve the medullary serotonergic (5-hydroxytryptamine [5-HT]) system in up to 70% of infants who die from SIDS are the most robust and specific neuropathologic findings associated with SIDS and have been confirmed in several independent data sets and laboratories

I know that sleeping in the same room is recommended at least in the first couple of months when SIDS often happens, but I am not convinced that you would notice that a baby's breathing has stopped and even if you do, that there is anything you can do about it.

A friend who has lost her baby to SIDS had him in the same room as her when it happened. She woke up to find him lifeless in the crib next to her. Her guilt and self-blame is no less because the baby wasn't in a separate room

I'm not sure how the weight things work but there was something about not cosleeping if baby is less than a certain weight at birth.