Is more than 2 hours sleep too much to ask?

[Firstimemummy15]

I'm sorry this is a rant but I'm slowly losing the will to live, I'm shattered. My 8.5 mo th old just won't sleep more than 2 hour chunks at night before waking and crying/shouting for 30-60 mins before going bk to sleep. I try letting her cio but she has none of it. I feed her, make sure her nappy isn't wet/dirty etc but she always wakes and I'm losing my patients with it. She is breastfed, has 3 meals a day a generally has a two hour nap in the morning and an hour in the afternoon. I go bk to work next month and honestly don't know how I will cope. Why eont she just sleep? My sisters 3 week old baby sleeps better at night

Thanks everyone. I will try without the water tonight. When I comfort I just rub chest and shhh shhh and water is offered while sitting in cot. I've just found out she has a UTI so may explain being a bit unsettled. Will stick at it though. Wow Zoe I feel for you, 5 or 10 mins feels like a lifetime so for you to go through that must be tough x

Zoe- did you go back in 1 minute increments? And make sure she was calm with each going in? I can't imagine hours of crying- that must be hell. That's why I do 1 minute increments not 5, 10, 20 minutes that some people do.

Letting her cry sounds a bit harsh if she is ill.

What happens if you just fed her when she wakes up looking for comfort rather than letting her cry/waiting?

Surely withholding water/bf at night from a child with a UTI sounds like it won't help her get better.

Just checked back on this post to see dc has been diagnosed with UTI. I would hold off on any sleep training until she has been given all clear. She'll be in quite a bit of discomfort and unlikely you'll see fast results.

Ditto on the UTI; make sure she's 100% well first and then sleep train.

Yep. She would calm down every time we picked her up then become instantly hysterical the second we put her back. Rinse and repeat, and again and again and again. Some kids haven't read the manual!

Hey first time, yeah I feed him when he wakes as long as its been 3+ hours from his last feed as that's how long he can go in the day. Hes always refused a bottle so unsure how I'd do the watered down milk/ water approach, do you give ur lo water from a cup at night?

Zoemaguire that sounds awful, we set a limit of 30mins and then we'd up our comforting, have you tried pick up, put down instead? I'd prob abandon cc for a few weeks make a new plan and return to it when ur lo is ready, tho like you say they're all so different what works for some just won't for others! Know its backwards but I actually started with naps as I felt I cd always take him out if it really wasn't working so not the same 'bedtime ' pressure! X