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13 week old waking every hour

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Kaz4755 · 05/10/2015 16:02

Hi, just wondering if anyone can help! My 13 week old girl gas just started waking every hour at night, I'm a new first time mum and don't know what to do. I have been feeding her each time and resettling her but can't do this much longer! Any ideas? She is breastfeed mainly with last bottle at 7.30pm when she sleeps til 11 & then it is every hour. We put her down asleep which I am sure isn't right. Any tips greatly received l! Thank you.

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FATEdestiny · 05/10/2015 16:13

How often does she feed and sleep through the daytime?

More calories through the day means less needed during the night. Better sleep during the daytime means less over-tiredness and so easier to settle to sleep during the night.

At 13 weeks I would be aiming for one full feed and one 30-45 minute nap in every 2 hours through the daytime.

I would also think about a dummy, to aid comfort sucking.

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Kaz4755 · 05/10/2015 20:16

Hi, thank you for your reply! Feeding during the day is probably every three hours or so, sometimes a bit nor, sleeping wise she tends to get ratty and need a nap about every hour and a half. I have wondered if she gets enough food during the day, we do use a dummy to get her to sleep in the evening, she is pretty good (touch wood!) at that, she knows change of clothes and nappy then swaddle pod and bottle, you can see her smirk when she goes in her swaddle! She sleeps in a chicco next to me by my bed so she is literally inches away from me and I wonder if I pick her up too soon when I can hear her wiggling around in the night. I am conscious not to wake up my husband but I wonder if she would self settle some times, perhaps i should leave her until she cries?

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FATEdestiny · 05/10/2015 20:20

Could you try settling her while she is lying down, without picking her up? Especially easy if you have a next to me crib. Lean into the crib, reassuring hand in chest, dummy reinsert - that kind of thing. All without picking her up.

I have tended to favour trying to resettle first (with the aid of dummy and reassurance, while lying next to baby) and then only feed if 'dummy wont do'.

However more frequent daytime feeds may help.

nottheop · 05/10/2015 20:21

Yes definitely give her the chance to go back to sleep. Give your DH earplugs! I moved DS at 12 weeks as he seemed to get more noisy. If she goes 3 hourly for food in the day, there's no reason why not at night.

MrsMogginsMinge · 05/10/2015 20:23

Our so-called 4 month sleep regression started at 13 weeks. Lots of waking up every 90 minutes. Horrible. And lasted until 5 months, more or less to the day. I never found a solution to the constant waking but it did stop. Not sure if that helps! There are some threads on here about it which might help.

Fluffy24 · 05/10/2015 20:24

Possibly just a growth spurt? keep BF when she wakes up and fingers crossed she goes back to better sleep pattern soon. It's hard work though!

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Kaz4755 · 05/10/2015 21:02

Thanks everyone, I will try the reassuring hand tonight and see if I get anywhere! I have just put some ear plugs on hubbies bedside table! Hope it is just an early sleep regression although to be fair sleeping hasn't been great from day dot, just as well she is cute! With regard to putting her down dopey in the evening and nit asleep well I tried it this evening and she woke straight up and cried for a couple of minutes, I tried reassuring her with my hand and shssshing and put her dummy back in but it escalated so I picked her up and am now bf-ing her. She is now asleep on me again. Tomorrow when I put her down do I let her cry for a bit longer each evening? She is still so small it breaks my heart!

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Kaz4755 · 07/10/2015 06:14

Me again, we have had a slight improvement the past couple of nights, I know every baby is so different but in your opinions is four times a night acceptable? I have tried leaving her when she wakes up but she thrashes and starts to cry so I pick her up, each time I pick her up and feed her it is like she I ravenous and hasn't eaten all night! We fed her at 7.15 and put her to bed at 7.45, she first woke at midnight, perfect, but then 2, 4 & 6. I have now retreated to the sofa with her hoping she may nod back off!

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Salene · 07/10/2015 06:17

No tips but my little boy was like this till he was about 8 months old.

Nothing made a difference and he just got better with sleep when he was older he is now 12 months and sleeps through night about 70% of the time

I think some just aren't good sleepers

caravanista13 · 07/10/2015 06:24

Please don't let her cry! She's looking for reassurance and at this very young age she needs to know that you're always there.

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Kaz4755 · 07/10/2015 06:41

Hi, thank you for your replies, don't worry I don't let her cry, I pick her up as soon as she starts! In the evenings we put her down asleep, I know we should be putting her down drowsy which we have tried but she just wakes straight back up. Is she too little for us to leave for a couple of minutes to cry? Thank you in advance!

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Purpleboa · 07/10/2015 08:32

Sympathy and I'm there with you. DD never slept great, but we were doing Ok with about 2 feeds a night. Then around week 12 it all went wrong. She had a cold, got her jabs and we went on holiday. She was waking so frequently! Things were getting a bit better until recentky (she's 15 weeks) and I think we're headed for the 4 month sleep regression. Argh! I wish I had advice but I don't. My DD is ebf and is fed to sleep. I have tried shush pat and sometimes it does work. Sometimes I'll get up and rock her. I won't let her cry, she's too young for that. Will reassess at 6 months when she's in her own room.

I tried a dummy in desperation but she wouldn't take it. From what I hear, using a dummy creates another unhealthy 'sleep association' as they may wake up multiple times searching for it! We swaddle too with a swaddLe me blanket but I wish we'd never started as she is so used to it now.

I feel awful today. LO was crying to be fed and I barely had the energy to pick her up :(

caravanista13 · 07/10/2015 13:48

I don't believe there's anything wrong in putting them down asleep. For some babies it's the only thing that works and they grow out of it eventually.

Shaw2be · 08/10/2015 05:03

I'm in a similar situation and introduced a dummy a few weeks ago, its great ag helping her settle initially but when she wakes in the night for it I would say it takes a good hour of her falling asleep with ig then dropping it and waking up. If I have another baby I will stick to my gubs and not give in to give a dummy!!

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Kaz4755 · 08/10/2015 07:16

Thank you for your replies. Regarding the dummy she generally doesn't seem too bothered if it comes out. We don't always use it, sometimes I can hear her blow it out with such force that it hits the side of the cot! Last night bearing in mind she had her 12 week injections yesterday she went down at 8, woke at number 11, 2,3.50 and 5.15. I guess it could have been worse! Caravanista - I didn't think there is anything wrong putting her down asleep but all the books I have read say put them down drowsy or they won't self settle. Who knows! Perhaps she is a little young still. Purpleboa- it is useful to know your method, I will try ssshhhhvput, I have half heartedly tried it before but she seemed to get more wound up by it than anything! I hope you all had good nights!

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