desperate mummy... need advice

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Beckysk · 05/10/2015 05:12

Hi my LO is 1 year old, is the biggest boobie monster ever and we co-sleep because of this. She probably feeds to get back to sleep about 10 times a night (!) And is impossible to get into her cot. Sounds harsh but ive had enough now.. i live alone with my two children, and would like to feel i could go back to work soon but atm im just exhausted. Tonight i tried to just go cold turkey at night.. managed to rock her off to sleep on two occassions but the rest of the night she lost it.. headbutted me scratched me punched me until she got to nurse so at 2am i gave up. Im thinking trying to get her to sleep in her cot and night weaning isnt a good idea at once? Help me im at my wits end! Oh and she also refuses bottles!

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spanisharmada · 05/10/2015 05:21

I stopped BF all mine at about 12 months, I did bed time routine, feed, and put them in their cot (co-slept before). Then did the 1 min, 2 min, 4 min thing, laying them back down, saying night night darling and immediately leaving the room. It was hard but only took a couple of nights to crack. I really think by that age its a habit rather than a need.

BathshebaDarkstone · 05/10/2015 05:24

I think the only way to night wean is to get her to sleep in her cot, so maybe tackle sleeping in the cot first. When she wakes to feed, put her straight back in her cot. DS was a lot younger, but he got the message in a few nights.

DesertorDessert · 05/10/2015 05:30

I agree, one at a time.
Personally, I'd get her to sleep in the cot, but feed at wakes. This is going to be knackering. Do you have any family who could come and look after the kids while you sleep in the day?
Once she will sleep in the cot, then you can think about less boob.
Good luck. You must be exhausted.

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Beckysk · 05/10/2015 05:33

Oh thank you! Her cots in with my 4 year old daughter so may put up the guest bed in my room so it doesnt disturb her and try that. Im nervous aboit how little sleep im.gunna get as she wakes up every hour lol. She goes mental even when i just put her in the cot.. wont calm down until i pick up.. so do you leave the room when they are still crying or try and settle them. I dont think she would ??

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Beckysk · 05/10/2015 05:35

This would be my first option just we co-sleep and she already wakes every hour or two if im lucky.. god knows what she would be like in a cot

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DesertorDessert · 05/10/2015 06:15

Thing is, if you co sleep, how are you going to restrict boob acess?
Would the cot fit in your room? I'm not sure if her being close to you will be beneficial (smaller degree of change) or detrimental (closer to milk) to reducing the number of wakes.

What do you do about naps? Feed to sleep? And where does she sleep then? You could try naps in cot, not feeding to sleep, as your oldest will be at school? Don't change the nights til naps are in the cot without boob?

53rdAndBird · 05/10/2015 06:20

Jay Gordon's night weaning method is designed for co-sleepers. Haven't tried it myself but have heard good things about it.

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Beckysk · 05/10/2015 06:20

At the moment she has her naps in the pushchair or cot... neither of these are fed to sleep.. stopped that a few weeks back. Cot wont fit in my room unfortunatley.. but i have a spare single bed i could out up next to it. I just would feel so bad aboit the amount of change.. but equally i vant go on ljke this. Maybe ill have to exoeriement to see what works best

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