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10 month old sleep issues - any idea?

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Scoffin · 29/09/2015 19:29

Was just looking for advice on the problems I am having with my 10 month dd.

She was a good sleeper as a newborn but hit the 4 month sleep regression and for several months was waking 2/3 times a night. She would feed straight back to sleep (bf) and I didn't find this too unbearable so we trundled on.

A few weeks ago I stopped bfing in the day in preparation for going back to work. She is offered a bottle but takes very little, perhaps 100ml in a day, plus three goodish solid meals. Come nighttime, all she wants to do is feed - she wakes every 1 1/2 to 2 hours and screams unless she is fed, although I have sometimes settled her with rocking - but she needs a lot of intervention. We generally end up co-sleeping as otherwise I would lose the plot. She seems to be losing whatever limited ability she had to self settle.

Other relevant information...she is very emergetic in the day and has always resisted napping. She has already dropped to one nap, 1-1 1/2 hours after lunch. Bedtime is 6pm and she will often sleep past 7 so I guess she is doing a good stint at night although obviously broken.

I am now back at work and seriously not coping with the sleep deprivation so trying to formulate a plan of action. As I see it there are really two issues: (1) that she is getting most of her calories at night and (2) she is used to breastfeeding to sleep and now can't fall asleep any other way (although she naps in the day without feeding, but seems to drop off through sheer exhaustion). I don't want to do CIO but can see that some sort of sleep training is required.

And I'm going to have to stop bfing, aren't I? The thought makes me really sad, but I can't see that she will ever take proper bottle feeds in the day when breast is on offer at night.

Anyway, I would be grateful for any thoughts or experiences - all my friends babies are sleeping through so can't help thinking I've gone very wrong somewhere!

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Thisismyfirsttime · 29/09/2015 20:38

Have you tried pushing her bedtime back to 7pm and giving her a huge feed just before? Does she have a dummy? Could you offer her milk in a beaker during the day? Mine took more from a beaker when we were having nighttime problems. Have you tried offering water and nothing else overnight? I ff so am not helpful re bf problems but some of these helped when dd was moving from feeding overnight to not doing so.

jessplussomeonenew · 29/09/2015 20:59

Could be the 8-10 month sleep regression - things did improve afterwards for us though it was very tough as I was back at work at 9 months. Not sure if you have a partner but involving them in night waking really helped us both to get some uninterrupted stretches, it also helps that they don't smell of milk!

BTW my 13mo is still not sleeping through, some babies take much longer than others. That said his sleep is getting miles better (he's down from 8 to 2-3 wakes a night which is bliss). I feed him to sleep at bedtime but he has spontaneously started to settle back to sleep with cuddles or even on his own. If you can find a way to get through the sleep deprivation then there's a good chance that things will improve on their own before too long.

FATEdestiny · 29/09/2015 21:18

Is she drinking enough water? Could she be thirsty, rather than hungry?

I would estimate that my 12 month old drinks at least 1 litre of fluids per day (through the daytime), often approaching 1.5l and has done from about 9 months old. She gets about half of this from milk, with the rest from water/squash/fruit juice.

It stands to reason that if you have a baby drinking no (or very little) milk throughout the daytime, that she will need to drink significantly more water than your average 10 month old would.

If she's dehydrated through the day, this may be the cause of wanting to breastfeed more at night.

53rdAndBird · 29/09/2015 21:22

Will she take a cup rather than a bottle during the day? Mine has refused bottles since 4 months, but started drinking a decent amount from a cup around 10/11 months.

Scoffin · 30/09/2015 20:41

OP here. Thanks for all the input.

Thisismyfirsttime lots of good ideas. I do know I need to push bedtime back really but it is hard at the end of the day when we are both so tired. I did try a dummy once but she was furious, but may be worth another try.

Jessplusone thanks for giving me hope that it might get better! I would be willing to push through if I knew things would improve in a few months, but starting to feel that they won't. But it may be that time is the only answer.

FATEdestiny I hadn't really thought about dehydration, but you're right. I do offer her water in the day. Will try to get her to take more.

53AndBird I have tried a beaker but not a cup. Do you just mean a normal drinking cup?

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