At wits end here- previously compliant toddler is now being a nightmare at bedtime. From pretty much self settling at 7pm and sleeping through, he is now screaming the place down unless I sit in his room while he goes to sleep and then is early waking and tantruming. If I sit with him he will sometimes go back off, otherwise he just screams until I let him get up ( I am trying not to do this until 6am, which if he's awake at 4 is a trying 2 hours!). I have tried getting him to just have the one nap, back to two, his routine is pretty consistent, tried pick up put down, leaving the room for a minute, then two etc ( this has worst results), stroking him to sleep, gradual withdrawal, nothing is getting him to self settle again. It's been month and I am shattered. I am probably confusing him by constantly changing tactics. Dh and dm think I am being too soft and am rewarding him for crying by giving in and sitting with him but whenever I have tried sitting outside his door and going in in increasing long intervals he just screams and keeps it up and I can get him to sleep much faster by being with him. Possibly making a rod for my back. My DD has always been a good sleeper so not used to this! He isn't interested in co- sleeping. Any advice appreciated!