23 month old is it timeto change bedtime routine?

[firstmum45]

Hi there has anyone experienced simlair situation to this.

My only dd 23 months has had this routine for well over a year and it has always been a success, bath taken downstairs to a quiet dark room, put into grobag bottle of warm milk with Daddy if back from work or me. She always drops off then is carried upto her cot where she sleeps all night for 11-12 hours bliss.

Now she has her bottle and falls asleep in our lap but as soon as her head hits the cot she wakes up distressed and refuses to lay down and screams and screams until comforted.

My husband is away this week soI have got her to sleep in our bed and left her surrounded by pilow to stop her rolling out of the bed. When I try to carry her into the cot she just wakes up.

I am so exhuasted by the end of the day I have let her sleep with me just for a quiet life.

She has also dropped her daytime nap about 2 months ago however sometimes she will nod off if we are in the car. So I would expect her to be really tired at nightime.

Not sure what to do for the best should we change her bedtime routine? but to what?

I hope this is just a phase.
Can anyone help

My only advice would be to take the plunge and get her used to not just sleeping in her own bed but also to getting herself off to sleep. It won't be easy but it will be worth it in the long run and mean a lot less stress for you. The routine you've got in lead up sounds great but it would be better putting her into bed while she's still awake. If she keeps getting up, then just keep putting her back in and don't cuddle her, kiss her or make that much contact with her (even though its really hard). By going in or being visible standing in the doorway, she will see that although you have left the room its not permanantly and you are still there. Also, do not respond the minute she starts crying. Leave her for 2 mins and then build it up. We've had to do this with ds when we switched from cot to bed and it was hard but it worked. Good luck with it all.