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Bad Habit - need to break - encouragement needed!

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Iona1651 · 08/09/2015 12:54

My DD is now 14 months old. She originally slept through from 9pm to 7am when she went onto solids which was lovely! However, she seems to now have developed a bad habit without us actually noticing - until now. She goes to bed around 9pm - wakes around 11.30pm when she's lost her dummy - (if we go in quick enough before she wakes properly we can just stick it in and lay her down and she goes straight back to sleep). She then has started waking around 1.30am and will not settle in her cot. She will fall asleep in our arms but as soon as she is put down then she wakes. This has resulted in her being brought into our bed just for us to get some sleep and has become a habit. My health visitor has advised that she shouldn't have a dummy so she won't wake up for it and she should be going to bed around 7pm - but if she went at this time she'd but up around 3am! Thinking of going cold turkey with the dummy thing but not sure how to do the self settling in her cot thing - any help and advice please?! (going to do this on Friday night when I'm not at work and my husband is away - hopefully something should be sorted by Tue when I'm back at work??).

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Iona1651 · 11/09/2015 22:40

Good luck Arkkorox - it's tough being a parent - all you (I) want to do when my DD cries is cuddle her. She's come to me tonight and cuddled up to me when she was getting tired. Hard to put her down knowing she'll get upset but I know I'll feel better for having some sleep.
Will be thinking of you when I inevitably wake for the loo in the night! xx

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Arkkorox · 11/09/2015 22:46

Haha! Thanks. Luckily my 26 year old bladder seems to have retained it's capacity post dd so I've got away with that one!

Arkkorox · 12/09/2015 06:32

Woohoo! Slept through! She's just starting to stir now Grin

excitedforbaba · 12/09/2015 10:05

So delighted (jealous) ark glad you got a good night! Dd was sound unto 2am then the fun started! Up for a bottle at 6.30 and start our day!

Arkkorox · 12/09/2015 18:58

Fingers crossed for a good night again for us!

excitedforbaba · 12/09/2015 20:54

We had 3 naps today! Is it a good thing... A rested baby will be more rested at night???

Watch this space.....
Here's hoping for a baby free bed for you both tonight anyway!!

excitedforbaba · 12/09/2015 20:55

Ps when I say we...I mean DD I can only dream of one nap never mind 3 Confused

Arkkorox · 13/09/2015 04:25

So dd can say mumma ( well actually its mumumma) but as thrilled as I am im pretty sure it could have waited till 7 to be announced!

excitedforbaba · 13/09/2015 08:04

Why do they shout mumma exclusively at stupid clock in the morning why can't they shout for dada! I got the awww mama awwww mama guilt trip at 12 but she went back to sleep in the cot for me! Result

She still ended up in bed tho! If I put her in my bed to start off do you think she will go in her cot then???

Iona1651 · 15/09/2015 12:45

Hi. So we were doing really well. Then we had a horrible weekend. DD has conjunctivitis. Took her to emergency docs Sun morning - didn't give her anything for her eyes or cough - said her chest was clear. Last night I put her to bed in her own cot at 8pm. She woke at 11.30pm coughing and was really sleepy but couldn't sleep because of the cough. Ended up bringing her in bed with me to try and sit her upright a bit more - I'm hoping all my hard work hasn't been undone. She's at nursery today so hoping she'll be so tired she'll sleep in her own cot.....

How's it going for you guys? Arkkorox - you seem to be making headway.....

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excitedforbaba · 15/09/2015 13:05

Oh no poor baby, it's horrible when they aren't well.

Dd is sleeping fantastic just bot in her cot all night I just can't get her to stay. She will sleep sound for 6/7 hours then it's like someone has flipped a switch and she goes mad to she gets out into our bed. She's out like a light as soon as her head touches the pillow! Put her back in the cot after a few mins and she's up same process each time. I'm just so tired of it now I think I'm going to admit defeat...there will be a point where she's 12 years old and will want to sleep on her own? ! I'm kidding...I think!

We've had such a stressful morning dd doesn't like getting her nappy done, doesn't like getting dressed, didn't like her breakfast didn't like getting in the pram to go to soft play with her friend...let me guess she won't like lunch either! Aagh how do people want a second baby on days like this I'm ready to send dp to the vet Confused

Tomorrow is another day.....

Iona1651 · 15/09/2015 21:24

Awwww. I hope your day got better excitedforbaba? Did your DD like anything today?, tea? milk?

My DD has had a full day at nursery with only half an hour sleep. I went to collect her and she was sat sucking on a dummy! We got rid of the dummy a week today! Apparently it was one she must've left there from last week. I did tell them this morning that the dummy had gone, but the lady I told had left and must not've passed on the message....

I was dreading tonight but my DD was so tired she just went down in her own cot - so fingers crossed ............

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excitedforbaba · 15/09/2015 21:29

Ok so she loved her lunch phew! Loved it that much I think she woukd have licked the bowl if I'd let her!
Then she refused her afternoon bottle, refused her afternoon nap, refused her jammies....see a pattern emerging! There were some tears of frustration from me this evening wondering what I am doing so wrong but she went to sleep so easy tonight after giving lots of snuggles and kisses (with no biting involved!)

Oh no with the dummy, hopefully that was a last wee chug and she won't look for it again!

Here's hoping we all get a good nights sleep I know I could do with it! Birthday tomorrow and I feel Iv aged years in the last few months!

KLou1105 · 16/09/2015 12:46

Sleep training, I didn't want to do it but I had to as my dd was waking constantly for juice then getting into the habit of waking more and more until she thought it was funny! With being 25wks pregnant I thought enough was enough, so I tried it for a few nights and I couldn't do it and ended up getting her up then after speaking to my childminder she gave me the confidence to do it and it worked! A few nights of being unsettled is worth years of getting up imo :) one evening I had left her crying on and off for 2 hours and adventually she fell asleep. It was the worst thing I've ever had to do :( and spent most of the time crying myself but I knew it was the only way. and after 3 nights she didn't wake x

Iona1651 · 16/09/2015 20:31

Happy birthday! excitedforbaba. 21? I'm sure you don't look a day over...
I hope you've had a lovely day (and sleep).

So how's it going? My DD is full of cold and has conjunctivitus which the doctors haven't given me anything to treat it with. My DD woke crying during the night but self settled so I got a full night of sleep - bliss! She got up for breakfast around 7.30am - hardly ate any - then went back in her cot for 2 1/2 hours before getting up again - not eating a lot of dinner then having a sleep cuddled up on grandma's knee. Grandma had instructions to wake her up as she won't sleep tonight - she was really sleepy and wouldn't wake up. I fed her tea when I got in from work, then bath, teeth brushed and she's gone to bed and is fast asleep from 8pm. No drama re. no dummy - lucky escape there I think!.

KLou1105 - sleep training has worked so far for me - I'm sure it doesn't work for everyone but I feel so much better when I've had a full night of sleep.

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excitedforbaba · 17/09/2015 00:30

Thank you Iona I wish I was 21 again! Poor DD hope it clears up soon

We had a good nights sleep last night yes she was in my bed but we both slept like "babies" was lovely wakening up next to her this morning and we had no drama over food, clothes nappies etc it's as if she new and plenty of kisses!

Can one of you ladies call round while I go out and aleep train dd I can't even deal with her crying if I'm in another room I have to go comfort her even if she's with her dad, nanny, aunt etc I need to toughen up!

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