Not quite sure when it started, probably in June, so about 3 months ago. DS (now 21mo) has started crying if I left his room at bedtime. I still could go out and would come back after a while if he started crying again. It gradually got worse and worse and now he screams bloody murder if I leave the room and I have to sit with him the entire time. It wouldn't be so bad if it didn't take him over an hour to get to sleep. It sometimes can take up to two hours. So there is very little left of the evening to spend with DP for me.
He has now started waking up in the night too. Once or twice if we're lucky, but normally 3-4 times. On top of that he is up for the day at 5-5.30. I do try to put him back to sleep if wakes up at 5, and I can see that he tries, but after a while I just give up as I can clearly see he's past the point.
About 2 weeks ago his naps gone from 2h to about 40 mins. Sometimes he would go back to sleep, but most often he won't. He has done his 2h nap once last week.
I just don't know what's wrong. It all got worse when we came back from visiting my parents, but that was almost 2 months ago! He's still missing 3 canines but I don't think it's teeth. They don't look like they are about to erupt.
I can tell he's tired during the day, he keeps rubbing his face/eyes which is a sign of tiredness for him.
I'm pg with #2 and on top of general pg tiredness I'm anaemic. I wanted to cry today when he woke up after 40 mins again, having woken up at 5.20 this morning.
Another issue is that he won't settle for DP. He screams as if his leg is being amputated if DP goes in instead of me. I guess I made a rod for my back here as it has always been me who put him to bed/got up at night. Any ideas how to fix it? Get DP to do bedtime?
Sorry for such a long post. If anyone can offer some advice, or tell me it's just a phase, I would be very grateful.