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14 mnth DS now in own room but wakes at 1am every night - help pls!

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louiesmum · 27/11/2006 16:59

Hi this is the first time on posting a message on the site so pls bear with me if not sure on all the lingo!

My DS is now 14 months and never been a great sleeper. Instead of getting better he was getting worse in that he would end up in with us every night and was having two bottles. I wasnt going to bed with my DS then getting up when he was asleep about 12 to do the lunches/bottles etc for the next day.

After a year of completely no sleep and being shattered i decided to take a week off work and get him into his own cot in his own room which I have done half successfully. he now goes up to bed at 8.30 and I give him his last bottle in his room and he goes to sleep pretty much through that gradual sleeping pattern with me putting my hand on him. I tried the controlled crying without much success.

My problem is that he goes to sleep from 8.30 but wakes at 1am every night. i dont think he is hungry just wants a cuddle. I have done this but then he is unsettled for the rest of the evening and wakes again an hour later. Until about 3am i give in and get him in with us as i need some sleep to go to work the next day. I am not sure why he is waking. He has only been in his own room about 3 weeks? Do you think this is another faze? Not sure how to get past this 1am slot? I thought he might be frightened of waking in a dark room so have left a dim lamp on but it still needs to be happening?

Any suggestions welcome pls.

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laneydaye · 27/11/2006 17:04

Can only tell you what worked for me.xx
Lay him back down say night night kiss him and leave..
I usually leave it 5 mins if he is crying before going back then repeat..
"nd time round leave it 10 mins.....then 15 you get the picture?

My dd usually does this everytime she cuts a tooth..She usually is asleep within 30 mins and after 3 nights(ish) her sleeping pattern is back to normal

Some of this advice will be from other mn'rs also.. Its hard but good luck its worked for us.

louiesmum · 27/11/2006 17:13

thanks laneydaye. really appreciate your quick response. xx

is this a bit like controlled crying as i have tried that initally for two hours of crying at a time and then he slept for 30 mins and then it started all over again. thats why i started the gradual retreat with my hand for reassurance on his back - he did seem to respond better and does go back to sleep - this is what i do intially at 8.30pm. I just cant seem at 1am to get him to stay asleep? he doesnt really want a bottle - he has a dummy - and i know that if i pick him up he will go back to sleep straight away but this is not the answer? its just if i then put him down he doesnt go back into a deep sleep like before and wakes hour after hour. I am out of ideas on what to do. he doesnt have any teeth cutting at the moment.

i will be perfectly honest i dont think i could do the controlled crying again - didnt really work for either of us.

I know i am making progress in having a bedtime in his own room in his own cot but am completely stuck at this 1am stage and am out of ideas.

any other suggestions please x

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